Make Her Fall.

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Kiss her…

It seems to me that there are a lot of men out there who either A) Don’t know what a women needs, wants or thinks or B) Plain don’t care, or feel that caring would make them less of a man. Assuming you are a male in category A. please keep reading.  If on the other hand your in camp B. go back to being a douche bag!

For all the guys who think that women are these complicated, game playing “unreadable” creatures put on this earth to drive you crazy (and not always in the good sense of the word) I offer a simple guide to what women want from you (regardless of what they say!).

Here’s how to make any women fall for you, (or fall again) or stop hating your guts if you’ve been fighting.

sweep her off her feet
Sweep her off her feet!

  • Listen to her (with your ears not just your facial expressions). Enough said.
  • Show affection. Reach for her hand, put yours on her leg, put your hand in the small of her back (we LOVE that).
  • Give her eye contact. Yes even if you’ve been together forever, nothing can reignite the spark quite as fast as great eye contact.
  • Kiss her. Be gentle, eyelids, tip of her nose, forehead,
    neck, shoulders. Stand behind her when she’s making you dinner and move
    her hair to the side and kiss the back of her neck…even a pissed-off
    women will let whatever the beef is slide if you use that trick!
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Make her feel safe.
  • Surprise her (even if she says she hates surprises). Catch her off guard, by dancing in the living room, bringing home her favorite wine for dinner, whatever, be creative. Prove that you know your women, these little gestures go a LONG way. Even the little tiny things, most women will see and appreciate the fact that you did something to show you’ve been paying attention to what she likes.
  • As a general rule, read her mind. This isn’t really that hard to do, honestly (stop laughing!). It’s not. Ever get frustrated because she says “one thing but wants another”? It’s easy to spot that. If you are observant and know her, and have paid attention to her mannerisms, body language, and how she talks about certain things you will be able to spot when she says one thing but really wants the opposite. Then you can be the hero and be the one guy in her life who got it right! Example: She has been talking about going to this new restaurant down town, she’s mentioned it a few times (hopefully you where “ears” listening and not just “face” listening). Saturday night rolls around, you have made plans to “go to dinner and hang out”, but you suggest a movie and take-out instead…She says yes, agreeing to a movie and take-out, but gives you the cold shoulder all night. Her body language is annoyed, disappointed and she really just wants you out of her sight. But every time you say “are you SURE? We could go out to dinner…” she still says yes that she’s sure. Inside she’s thinking “how is it possible that this dude is not understanding that I wanted to go to the new restaurant? Eventually he will SEE how annoyed I am and fix this mess!” I’m telling you, if your the one guy who was paying attention to all her actions, body language, tone of voice and emotions you will nail this! If not that movie night is not gonna end the way you were hopin!
  • Give her attention. Flatter her. NO WOMEN ON THE PLANET “KNOWS THEY ARE BEAUTIFUL” THEREFORE DOESN’T NEED TO BE TOLD! Come on now guys! Tell her. Often! Make her feel sexy, beautiful and the reason your eyes light up. Let her see that.
  • Appreciate what she does for you. Big or small don’t let them slide by without showing your appreciation and gratitude.
  • Love her more than she loves you. If you do this, and all the above, then she will love YOU more than you love her. So you will both be up shit creek without a paddle. In other words don’t be afraid to give that much love. That much of yourself. Be okay with the fact that maybe your the one that gives more, your more vulnerable and exposed. But until your there you can’t really really know true love.

The beauty of all this is that you can apply The Law of Attraction here too. You get back what you put in. You get back the love you put out, but it’s multiplied. It’s like gaining interest on your 401k. If you keep making the deposits you’ll keep gaining interest. Put the work into her and she will love you harder and longer than any women has before her. Teach her how to love, be selfless and know that the reward and the payback will be great.

Love her faithfully until the end.

 

 

 

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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8 Comments

  • Anonymous
    August 23, 2011 - 7:33 pm | Permalink

    Guys! LISTEN TO SARAH!!!!

    Trust me on this! I’ve been doing most of these things (some longer than others) and IT WORKS!

    You have so little to lose compared to how much you WILL gain!

    Sarah has laid before you the key to your sweetie’s heart! Although she did not write a lot, it is POWERFUL stuff! She has given you the Cliff Notes of volumes of marriage self-help books! Believe me, I’ve read them.

    Your sweetie likes jewelry, but it’s expensive right? Sarah has GIVEN YOU gems here! Nuggets and pearls of wisdom that, if put into action, will mean more to your sweetie than ANY jewelry you could ever give her. I promise!

    Gregory Gibson

    Full Disclosure – Since I’ve gone on and on about how great this is, I want you to know that I do not know Sarah personally. We are distant Facebook friends. I also don’t know anyone else possibly associated with this blog.

  • August 23, 2011 - 7:40 pm | Permalink

    Awe thanks Gregory!!! I’m glad a guy gets what I’m talking about here! It comes down to the Golden Rule…LISTEN to her (verbally, visually, body language, tone of voice) pay attention! She will be SPRUNG! I promise!
    And true that on the disclosure!

    ~actually my personal friends and family don’t read my blog much. But I do accept friend requests on my FB and respond that way so I am able to connect with my readers…but very few of my personal friends have ever commented on this blog, I think they avoid it for fear I might saw something personal about someone I know which of course I never have and never will…but what can you do 🙂

  • Anonymous
    August 23, 2011 - 7:44 pm | Permalink

    I have a problem with this. Why should a man have to love a woman more than she loves him? I believe that is the definition of settling.

    Why do men have to jump through hoops for women? Is it not enough to provide, be there for her and the kids and be faithful? I understand showing a woman that you love here but these bullet points on what men need to do to make a woman fall in love is overkill.

    I think this is why a lot of women are single today. Maybe if a man needs to do all of this for you you could be considered high maintenance. One question that should be asked is, “What has the woman done to deserve all of this” It definitely should not be default actions on the part of the man.

    Just my opinion. Still love the blog by the way!

  • August 23, 2011 - 7:54 pm | Permalink

    @Comment #2…
    Thank you for your feedbackk but I think you missed the message of the post. The last paragraph answeres all your questions. If you do all that for her, she will do all the AND MORE for you in return. If you go out on a limb and are ok with the fact that you might love her more, then you are finally at that place where love is pure, terifying and she can feel safe to do the same in return.

    Also the post is about how to make a women fall in love with you, read her when she’s mad, and get her to chose you over the other options. But if you continue to do those things then your love will last. By default she will treat you the same in return, that is The Law of Attraction. Get what you give.

    If all that feels like overkill or like the women is “high maintanance” then maybe she is not the right women for you…because when it’s the right women, all of that will seem like it’s NOT EVEN CLOSE TO BEING NEAR ENOUGH, of an expression of your feelings and love for her…just a thought.
    Thanks for you thoughts 🙂 keep em coming.
    Sarah

  • August 24, 2011 - 1:30 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for sharing small small great things,

  • August 24, 2011 - 4:23 pm | Permalink

    How about mutual respect for one another? Great blog, wise woman.

  • August 24, 2011 - 4:33 pm | Permalink

    Thanks Pam 🙂 mutual respect goes with out saying in my book and is a MUST! This is more for a guy WANTING to know how to make a women melt…and less about their relationship, lots of guys I know struggle with “reading” girls…

  • Anonymous
    August 26, 2011 - 5:04 pm | Permalink

    Hello…my name is Ed….All I can say Is…this is how I treat my woman all the time, and we have always been very happy, and productive. She is my best friend. I never even thought about the things you listed. It’s just the way I treat her. My favorite thing to do is what I call “Tigger Pounce” her. I’ll sneak up on her, start kissing her all over. I love the way she giggles when I do that.

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