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Letting Go of The Love of Your Life.

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Letting go of the love of your life…
Two years ago I met the love of my life.
It was one of those cosmically aligned moments, when I ran into a stranger in an elevator who changed my life and stole my heart. The connection was instant and undeniable.
For the next year my heart went through every possible emotion.  The most prominent of which was; finding the one person you’ve spent your whole life searching for, the one that is the perfect match to you in every way, but knowing from the start that it would never last. It was that tragic. That heartbreaking –can’t-do-shit-about-it- life’s-a-bitch- kinda love that rips your heart out.  Yet when you fall in love, you  have no control over it, even if you know the chances for survival are minimal at best. It just is what it is.

I didn’t believe in love at first sight until our eyes locked that day. I thought it was something writers and fairytales invented to keep us wishing for some magic that probably never existed. But from our first eye contact, it was there, as crazy as it sounds.  If you’ve ever found this kinda love, then you know it doesn’t sound crazy at all.  There was no denying it, on both sides. And from that moment on as we spent time getting to know each other, knowing that our timing would not mesh.

I asked God and the Universe (or whatever else was listening)…why? Why do this to me? Why put me through something so pointlessly painful. Why bring him into my life in such a fates-collide kinda way, only to not let him stay? 

I don’t know the answer to that question.  I wish I did. I wish it would reveal itself to me. Because even now two years later, the thought of him makes me want to cry. No matter what I’ve done to try and move past it the last year, to put him behind me and except that it wasn’t meant to be, he’s still always with me.

I share this with you because, almost every single day for the past few years a reader will write to me from somewhere in the world with a story just like this one.  They always ask me: “How do I get the love of my life back?” And I always say… you don’t.

You let them go.

“But!” They protest, “I want you to tell me how to make the Law of Attraction bring them back”.

And again I say… not how it works my friend. Believe me this is not what I would want to hear either. But it’s what I’ve come to know is true. And the only thing that keeps my heart from bleeding out, is knowing and trusting that there must be some crazy higher power at work, dreaming up a bigger dream for me than my little brain can do for itself.  Because to me he was perfect. To me he was all I’ve ever thought I wanted.  But that’s not the reality.

The reality is that if it was perfect and if he was the one for me, it would have worked out. It wouldn’t be a tragic love story. It would have been happily ever after.  And it’s not.

"Letting Go of the Love of Your Life." How do you let go of the one person who you feel was your soul mate? Is there more than one true love of your life? CLICK TO READSo what I must do, and what you must do if you find yourself in a similar situation, loving someone who didn’t chose you.  Or who left you. Or who doesn’t love you as much as you love them, you must let them go.  You must trust that there is something greater and better at work for you.  And then you must look at all the reasons that person came into your life.  And all the things they taught you about yourself.  And realize that maybe they came into your life, not to be there forever, but to teach you something that will make you ready when forever finds you.

It’s hard. I know this. There hasn’t been a day that’s passed the last two years when I’ve not thought of him. Maybe that will always be the case, I don’t know.  But the year of heart-brokenness, and pain, and tears, and emptiness has finally passed. And it will for you too.

The lessons he taught me about myself, and the awakening I had about my life; my past, the way I love and seek love, all of those things are priceless. They are the reason I was able to write my memoir.  Was able to finally find happiness inside myself instead of seek it in a man. He raised the bar to a level I never thought I could expect, and he softened a heart that was quickly growing cold.

For all those reasons I’ll love him always. But over time I’ve been able to let him as a person go, and still hold on to those qualities and realize that maybe they will manifest in someone even more perfect.  And even if they don’t I will be okay.

And lastly, if he really is my sole mate, then time and age and distance and life won’t matter.  Somehow, someway, someday, he may reappear. But that’s not what I focus on. There’s nothing I can do to make that happen. I’ve learned through trial and error that the only love I want in my life is one that is equally unmatched and where equal sacrifice is made, and until that is the case chasing after it will do no good.

I remain hopeful, and steadfast in my belief that whatever is meant to be for me will find me.  I’m not going to chase it, seek it, or hunt it down. I’ve drawn it to me before I will again, and so will you. Don’t let your heart ever stop believing that somewhere out there someone was meant to keep it safe for you.

Wonder if we ran into each other in an elevator today if we’d still have that
spark.. If we’d still feel that magic?  Hope you’re good, and happy, I
want that for you.
And I want for my heart to forget what it felt like, when u said my name...


Time to say goodbye to the love of your life.


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Dreamed It. Lived It. ~A Future Board That WORKS!

I’m so excited.  Finally! I’ve been waiting for some inspiration and something that would take my

My Reality Board

dream to the next level, and like always fear has been holding me back.  The last six months, I’ve felt so uninspired. Even wondering if all that I’ve been working on with my books, blog, speaking etc was doing any good.  Sometimes when you get close to your dream coming true, you lose sight of it. And I think that’s what I’ve done the last few months. I’ve known that it would take some risks on my part to get me to the next level that I want to be at, and I’ve been scared to take those risks.

But screw it, I’ve come this far! I’m not about to give up now! For almost two years readers and followers of my Youtube videos and blog have been asking me to do some type of vision board workshops and live conference calls/webcasts. I’ve always known that I could do these things and they have been in my long term plan, but I’ve been scared to just make that jump and do it. Partly because at the end of the day I’m just a single mom.  And of course that makes me always feel like what I have to say is not revolutionary, and you know what it’s not. Most of it is common sense. I get that. But I also know that this conviction and calling has chosen me, and weather I’m “qualified” or not, I have a message and a story to share that I believe with ALL MY HEART will change someones life.  And so that’s why at each stage of this journey I bite the bullet and take the leap into unknown water.

What I have to share is a simple way that anyone can change their life if they really want to. I have proof that the easy steps I’ve used can work for anyone. I have thousands of readers who’ve shared their stories with me over the past few years, and who’ve used my tools and coaching to get results that have transformed their lives too. And NOTHING in the world feels better then that.

So having said that, I’m so excited to say…..

I’m going to be hosting my

On Tuesday Aug 20th at 6:00 PM Pacific Time.

The one hour call is FREE and I’m not selling ANYTHINGIf you’d like to be on the call, email me to reserve your space at believeloa @ gmail . com and I’ll send you the dial in number. Space is limited on the call so do it ASAP.  I will leave the call open for your live questions as well. So this is your chance to ask me anything and hear my “Hustle.Believe.Receive. Key’s to Success” message first hand. Please share this info with your friends and family or who ever you know that could use a little inspiration/motivation and real life “anything can happen” message.

I’m also now taking bookings for my DREAM IT. LIVE IT. party/ Future Board workshops.  If you don’t live in the Portland Oregon area but would like me to come give a 1/2 day workshop to your friends/family/business I will gladly come for just the cost of travel.  In the workshop we will learn the steps to success using Hustle.Believe.Receive. and we’ll create our vision boards ones that will be your first step to manifesting your new life! email me for booking or more info believeloa @ gmail com


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