Dating Advice: How do I move forward?
A women who wants to move on from a man who doesn’t want a relationship, when she does. She is struggling with letting that go, it’s consumed her feelings and taken away her motivation. She wants to know how to change form a negative place and move into the positive.
Thanks for your note. Men are the heartbreak of our lives aren’t they! I don’t know why they torment us so much but they really do. They can take up all our mind share and make us unless to ourselves! Believe me I know!
I would say that, if you believe in the law of attraction, then you KNOW that “like attracts like” meaning that the more you make yourself sick over him the sicker and more obsessed and miserable you will be over him. So let’s turn that around!
Here is 4 quick steps to get you started….
1. Stop communicating with him for a while. Make a time limit for yourself (say a week). It will be a test of your mental strength and is the hardest thing to do, I know. But don’t reply to his text, dont email/facebook/tweet/call/drunk dial/nothing! And don’t respond if he contacts you.
2. Focus on YOU. Spend the time rebuilding your strength and self-worth. Because what it comes down to is, we settle for someone who treats us like crap when we don’t believe we can do better. When we are afraid of being alone. When that’s the message we tell ourselves. So start by picking 3-4 Affirmations:
“I am beautiful”
“I love my life”
“I know the right man is waiting for me”
“I am worthy of true, faithful love”.
Something like that, (note: it will feel fake and “stupid” in the beginning, stick with it) and say it to yourself in the mirror every day when you wake up. Throughout the day say it as many times as you can to yourself. Rewrite the script that runs in your head.
3. Get physically active. Walk, ride a bike, swim, go to yoga whatever you like to do. Maybe pick a different activity every day, try a new class at the gym. The exercise will give extra oxygen to your brain, and endorphins which will make you have more energy and feel better about yourself. That combined with not talking to him (so not letting him bring you down), and constantly repeating your affirmations…will result in you feeling much better a week from now then you do right now! I promise!!!
4. Make a Vision Board. If you haven’t made a one already…this would be the perfect week to do it. It will give you something to look forward to and be happy about…it will get your mind off him and on to YOUR dreams…
Make a commitment to do all these things for just 7 days. 7 days is so short, we can do anything for that length of time right? So stick to this plan. My guess is you wont want to stop there… 🙂
Gooood luck!! email me in 7 days and let me know how it went k?
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*this is an interactive blog, please leave your thoughts…I love to hear form you and I will reply 🙂