Sarah’s Thoughts: Relationship Advise, Long Distance
Reader Question Summary:
She met her boyfriend while they both were interning in the US from Brazil and Indonesia, now they are separated and don’t plan to be together for another year. She is uncomfortable because he is back home in Brazil near his ex-girlfriend and their baby, while she is in Indonesia. She wants to know how to apply the LOA to keep her from being jealous and focusing on the negative.
Female, 24 Indonesia
Thank you for your letter. Your situation is a difficult one for sure. It kinda comes down to trust doesn’t it? You need to believe that his love for you is strong enough to withstand the temptation of him wanting to be with anyone else including her.
The biggest thing about the Law of Attraction is that WHATEVER you focus on is what you get more of. So knowing this, it’s pretty important to think about the right things and to focus on what you want not what you don’t.
Sounds simple but it’s the hardest thing about this for sure. If you are worrying about him going back to her, or him breaking your heart, or him deciding to not come be with you next year, that that’s what will happen. It’s called a self-fulfilling prophesy. To avoid that, you need to focus ALL your thoughts and intentions on the good things. Think of the time you spent together and how great it was, think of what it will be like when you are together again. Let those thoughts make you happy.
Thoughts have so much power. Weather you believe in the Law of Attraction or not it’s just a fact of life that they have the power to change your mood, and your mood determines your actions. So if you want to be with him and be happy, then portray that. Live that. Let that be what gets you up in the morning and keeps you going.
Distance is hard, but it can definitely be done. It requires total and unwavering trust in your partner. I actually had a long-distance relationship with my ex-husband the 2 years leading up to our wedding. It was really hard, but you just have to trust him, don’t question it until you have actual reason or evidence to. Because once you begin to question it, it is self-destructive.
So my advise would be that if you really love him and he really loves you, then just know that. Remind yourself of it every single time you start to doubt it or feel insecure. Have a quick mantra ready to repeat in your head 10 times that is something like “I’m so lucky to have a great relationship and we will be together soon!” something that focuses on how happy you are together and that you can get through the distance.
You can do it! Remember you control your thoughts, your thoughts don’t control you. So think happy ones and happiness will follow 🙂
Good luck 🙂
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