|Beauty is in your perception.|
“Change the voices in your head, make them like you instead” as PINK would say. I’ve talked a lot about how to believe lately on my blog and I think it’s a critical step. But than someone asked “how do I even get there?” And I thought, what a great question. I remember when I was starting out and faith was just something I couldn’t even get my head around. I wast ready for it yet. I was so full of self-loathing and life-loathing that having faith it would get better, or that my dreams would come true, was an irrelevant starting point for me.
So I decided I’m gonna take you all to the true FIRST step in changing your life. Change the voices in your head.
You know the ones I mean, the ones that tell you your fat and unattractive. The ones that remind you all day how much your life sucks. The ones that tell you no one will love you. The ones that say your not good enough. That say you suck as a parent. That there will never be enough money. Whatever your demons are (and we have all struggled our entire lives with them) now is the time to rewrite the script in your head.
This is the most difficult part of your journey. It’s harder than believing. Because if you can master this, then believing will come second nature. So know that going in. This will be the part that is the fight of your life.
Pick a part of your life you would like to change, any part. Now think about the loop that runs non-stop in your brain about that specific thing. Is it positive or negative? When you think about it does it make you feel better or worse? If worse, does it have the power to actually change your mood? Make you feel depressed? Make you act on that depression? Does it create a “funk”? Is it all you think about?
|You control your thoughts, they don’t control you.|
What do I mean? Let me give you an example.
So for me personally I have struggled with my weight my whole life. I was never what would be technically considered “fat or obese” but I was over-weight, and have always been on the curvy side. But obese is how I’ve always FELT. That was the message I fed my brain since I was about 9 years old. It didn’t matter that when I got married I was a lean, hard-body size 8. Nothing mattered, and nothing I could do was good enough to change that message I constantly gave my brain. “I wasn’t pretty, I’m fat” whatever. Without question it was all I thought about from morning till night. It destroyed my mood, depressed me. All the things above it did. Those thoughts controlled me.
So when I learned about the Law of Attraction, it taught me that what I obsess about is what I get more of. That scared the shit outa me! I didn’t want more of THAT.
So I came up with a mantra and hit the gym. My mantra EVERY time a negative thought came into my head was “I can do it, I am strong” (my Facebook friends will recognize this quote as it’s my status whenever I’m having a tough day!). I would (and still do) say it over and over and over in my head, to silence my internal critic.
So my first step, was to kill the negative voices in my head. Think of those thoughts as a computer worm or virus. If someone sent you an email and told you definitively that if you opened it, it had the power to wipe all your files and destroy all your happy memories (photos) with one-click, would you open it? Come on now! So the same rule applies. Those negative thoughts are poison. They have the power to destroy ALL the work you are doing to change your life and your attitude. GIVE THEM NO MIND SPACE. Change the subject on your thoughts, have your mantra ready, and kill it!
Isn’t it liberating to know you have this kinda power on yourself? For me it rocked my world! I had NO idea I could rewrite the script in my head. No one had ever told me that. I thought I was stuck thinking that way for the rest of my life. Thank god that’s total crap, and we do have the power!
It took a while for me. But one day I woke-up looked in the mirror and really liked what I saw. I saw me for the first time the way other people had. I felt beautiful. I was beautiful. Somehow in the mean time the weight had just come off (yes I was always hitting the gym too). But it had stopped being a struggle a long time ago, long before I realized it.
That’s the beauty of this. If you diligently fight for your life to change the voices in your head, one day you will stop fighting and they will be changed. That’s when belief becomes the easy next step.
If you walk away with nothing else from this post, I hope it’s that you realize (like seriously) that it’s you and only you that can do this. You have the power.
And when you do, you will of changed your life.
Pink’s song: Pretty Pretty Please