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Parenting Relationships

Reader Question: Family Relationships, Stay or Walk Away?

Reader Question:
Since her marriage,her husband’s parents have basically disowned their son and have little or nothing to do with him or his children. Though her husband has come to terms with how the relationship is, she is struggling to accept it. She has made several tries to mend fences and all attempts have been rejected. She wants to know if she should let it go or continue to try to fix this broken
relationship. ~Female reader in NJ
My Thoughts…
This is a great question and one I’ve been asked a lot over the past year in various ways, but in-laws or family seem to be a common source of pain and turmoil in many people’s lives.
I’m in a similar situation with my own family. They don’t understand the changes I’ve made in my life the past few years, and don’t understand who I’ve become or have any interest in getting to know who I am now. They have chosen to slowly drift out of mine and the kids’ life, to the point where they are no longer present.
It’s hurtful and so hard to deal with at times because we want our families to love and accept us unconditionally for who we are and to be there for us when we need them. But sadly that’s not always how it works.
I’ve finally come to the realization that we CAN choose our family.
I looked around my life and realized that my close girlfriends were already “aunts” to my kids, even if my sister has chosen to not be active in their lives. So my kids do have aunties. That my nanny is not just that but she’s like a back-up parent/sister/and aunt all rolled into one. That all the athletes I’ve met and
become close friends with over the past few years have stepped-up for my son at every opportunity to be a role model and friend to him the way I wish my brother would. That I have many mentors who are older than me, who I look up to and learn from and who’ve stepped into a maternal role, something my mother isn’t really capable of.
…So though it’s hard to let go of the dream of everyone getting a long, and one big happy family, I found that for me at least, it made the most sense. It allowed me to stop stressing and worrying about it, and to be happy and content in my life the way it is. I feel like my heart will always be open to them should they decide to come back into our lives and love us for who we are. My love for them is constant, and the whole in my heart from missing their presence in my life is as well, but I am going on with my life. I have to. For my own peace and sanity it’s a better option for me to not allow that negativity into my life.
So maybe that’s all we can do. Reach out, and if it’s rejected repeatedly then maybe it is time to just move on and make more room in our lives for the people who love us. After all, what good are people in our
lives if they don’t truly love and appreciate us for who we are? They might be physically there but not in spirit and when you think about it, wouldn’t you rather be with people who are actually there with and for you because they want to be, and not because they have to be?  And though the most hurtful part is them not being there for your children I believe it’s more harmful for them if they watch you make attempts that keep being rejected.
Maybe sometimes it is the right decision, at least for now to let everyone move forward in their separate lives.
XOXO,
Sarah

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Merry Christmas!!!

Merry Christmas Everyone!

Izzy decorating the tree…

This past year has been such a trip OMG! But thankfully it’s ended on a very high note. As a quick update the kids and I are nicely settled into our new beautiful home in the Seattle, WA area. We still cant believe this is where we live!! The kids call it a palace… I feel like pinching myself everyday and pray that both the kids and I never take a moment for granted.

This morning was a beautiful Christmas morning for the kids and I… it’s the first time (ever really) that I’ve been able to get them a “real” Christmas. I remember last Christmas when they each had one toy, a robe and slippers, and no stalkings. It broke my heart to have basically nothing for them, it was so difficult to know they were disappointed but are too loving and well mannered to complain. This year they kept saying “Santa came! he came!” Can’t really describe how that feels, as a single mom struggling the past three years to just keep my head above water.

Of course both the kids and I know that material gifts are NOT the point of Christmas, but it did feel amazing to, for once in their little lives give them gifts. I buy them very few toys or gifts normally I dont believe in spoiling children, I believe in creating work ethic… but this time I let them be little amazed kids on Christmas morning.

It was bitter sweet because the rest of my extended family was not around, and it’s the first year that it’s only been the kids and me, no other family. But even though their presence was missed we were so grateful and happy to be here, and having this Christmas together. We feel very blessed.

Quiet time in front of the tree…

I wanted to thank each and everyone of you who have written, emailed, Facebooked, tweeted, or commented this past year, for your support. There is no way I could have made it through this last year without all of your love and encouragement, you really have become my family. I’m so honored that you have taken the kids and I into your hearts and allowed us to share our story with you. We wish you and your families a very blessed, magical, successful and happy New Year.

Hustle.Believe.Receive!

Our little gift to you… this hilarious convo  that my 4 year old Izzy had with herself in the back seat of our car last night on the way to Christmas Eve Mass…enjoy!

Izzy on her fake cell phone: 
“Um hello? Is this the police? Great, hi police. Can you please climb up the shiny steep mountain and go get the Grinch? Ok great, thank you”.
Gets off the phone, pauses and then..
“OH NO!!! Wait!! I forgot to text the Grinch and tell him the police are coming!”
Picks up her phone: 
“Um yes, hi Grinch. The police are coming up the shinny steep
mountain and will be knocking on your door, go answer it please and go
with them… hurry, my phones about to die”. 

…Kanen and I about pee our pants!!!

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Our Last Night in Portland, Oregon.

portland oregon

Tonight is bitter sweet for sure. It’s the last night the kids and I will spend in Oregon, tomorrow morning the movers come to take us on our new adventure. It’s been such a crazy couple of months that the reality of it all has been slow to sink in, but tonight I feel it.

I sit here and reflect on the years I’ve spent in this town (Portland)…

  • I was married here at The Old Church in downtown on a beautiful June evening in 2000.  We danced the night away at The Governor Hotel grand ballroom in front of all our family and friends.
  • In the winter of 2003 we drove cautiously home from Good Sam hospital in NW to our adorable little row house with our most precious cargo, my son Kanen.
  • In 2004 we took that pivotal step in any young couples life and bought our first home. In a shitty-ass part of town, but we knew it had potential. We knew it was beautiful under the lawyers of crap. And it was.
  • In 2006 we sold it for a nice little profit and got the nicer home in the nicer area.. we were ready to grow our family and plant roots.
  • A few months later, heartbreak when we lost our baby when I was 6 months pregnant.
  • Good always follows bad and a few months later we got the crazy/happy news our twins where on the way!
  • In the winter of 2007 life began to unravel. We lost the house, I could no longer work. We tried to fit into a smaller, crowded life but hope began shrinking. In June the twins arrived healthy and amazing.
  • 2008 the shit hit the fan.
  • 2009 saw the rebirth of me. Saw the light I’d been hiding for so many years, saw the emergence of hope, drive, dedication, passion and sheer will power.
  • 2010 was an amazing year, full of firsts on so many levels. The first time in my life I’d loved a career, first time I’d traveled in years, and the first time I felt proud of myself on all fronts in maybe…forever.
  • 2011… well, you already know it’s roller-coaster story!

So that brings me to tonight. The ending of a major chapter in my life, and the launching of something brand new. Though there is certainly many things about Portland I will miss, I’m so looking forward to this final symbolic yet literal step from the past into the future. This is me moving forward. Leaving the ghosts behind.

A new dawn.
A new chance.
A new life.
A clean slate.

I’m ready. I feel overwhelmingly blessed as I look to what our future holds and look back at the road I’ve traveled to get here.

I’ve posted the good, the bad and the ugly on this blog for one reason… So that I NEVER FORGET who I am and where I came from. I want to always carry with me the struggle, the pain and the failures because they are what fuel my motivation and make me the women I am becoming. Without that I would be nothing. I would feel nothing. I wouldn’t know the meaning of gratitude when your face down in a pile of shit. I wouldn’t understand what it takes to fight, and that I am capable of more than I ever imagined. I wouldn’t know that I can control and shape the direction of my life.

So on that note, I’m including the video I shot this summer while living in the hotel when I was unemployed and our house had flooded. Watching this tonight, reminds me that ANYTHING IS POSSIBLE TO ANYONE WHO: a) BELIEVES b) WORKS THEIR BUTT OFF!!


HUSTLE. BELIEVE. RECEIVE.

 

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Happy Endings.

Our new dream home 🙂

I love happy endings. Fairy-tails, rags to riches, all that…especially when they are mine! I set out in January saying to myself (and probably posted it here) that 2011 would be my best year ever. If you’ve read my blog at all in the last year you would probably agree that a statement like that quite possibly jinxed me!

This year has been one for the record books, no question there. It’s been filled with some of the highest highs of my entire life, and some of the lowest and most terrifying lows as well. The funny part is it’s not just one or two lows, or highs it’s been a non-stop speeding bullet roller coaster the entire year. So much so I probably suffer from whiplash (as do you my poor reader who’s wondering from day to day what craziness I’m about to post!). But through it all I could never shake the belief, the faith I had, that this year would bring something great. Something HUGE, something epic. I held on through the cascading free-falls knowing with some ridiculous certainty that in the end there would be a rainbow… a happy ending to this year.

With work comes results.
With belief, vision, and hustle come reality.
With struggle comes strength.
With pain comes wisdom.
With lows come highs.
With failure comes unparalleled success.
With perseverance comes triumph.
With haters comes motivation.
With life comes lessons.
With disappointment comes determination.
With rain comes the rainbow.

I wish it didn’t take until December of 2011 for my belief to be realized but I’m so glad it was. It will be worth all the above, when in two days I move the kids and I from Portland Oregon to Seattle Washington to start my new job, live in our new house (first time ever for my girls to live in a real house) and begin our next chapter of this journey.

After being laid off 3 times this year; having our home flood and leaving the kids and I essentially homeless for 3 weeks this summer, to a very real cancer scare, and so many more struggles, it feels really great to be starting fresh. I’m thrilled about my new job and it’s potential, the house is amazing and everything I could have dreamed of, and Seattle will be just the place to give us a new beginning. I feel blessed beyond words.

The Law of Attraction is such a real and abiding force in my life. It works miracles daily. It delivers my wishes out of the clear blue sky, it restores my belief that life is beautiful even when it’s not. It’s enabled me once again to make something outa thin air. It’s enabled me to have the courage to step outside my comfort zone and be open to the possibility of possibility.

“If you think you can or you think you can’t you’re absolutely right.” -author unknown

Nothing in life is beyond your control. Your thoughts predict your future. Control them and you control your life.

And remember to DREAM BIG.

 
My favorite room in the new house!

 

Kanen’s new room and his “Reality Wall of Fame”

 

Check out my Pintrest Reality Board for more Manifestations

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

Follow on social media: Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat | Pinterest | YouTube |Periscope @sarahcentrella

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