Is there such thing as THE ONE?
I believe in life, we get many chances to love. The older I get, the less I believe in the idea of one “soul-mate”, or one “love of your life”. I think that in each phase of our life, we grow into different people and love takes on a new meaning. The love we sought when we were in our teens and twenties is different than what would attract, or be meaningful to us in our thirties or forties. Does that mean it wasn’t true love? Or that the person wasn’t, in that moment, the “love of our life”? I don’t think so.
I believe there is such a thing as finding a connection with someone that is unlike anything you’ve experienced prior. It transcends the love you knew up to that point, and for the time you spend with that person, they truly are “the love of your life” up to that point. But what happens when that love doesn’t last or doesn’t work out? Does that mean your chance is gone? That you’ve met “the one” and lost them and now your chance for love is over?
God how depressing would that be! It would make getting over that loss almost impossible. Thankfully, I believe it shows us, that with each true love we reach a new height. A new awareness of what love means. We learn how to be a better, more loving partner. We learn to let our walls down and let someone else in. With that comes the risk of pain and loss, but it truly is so much better to have had that opportunity then to have never experienced it at all. That would be tragic.
I think that love, like wine, like wisdom, gets better with age. I think it opens doors to something even better yet to come. It let’s us know we are capable of attracting it, experiencing it, and breathing it in. And I fully believe that there is a “right” one, even when the others who came before were perhaps the “wrong ones”. With each experience the bar is raised, the lessons are learned, and when the time is right, the one who is meant to stay will transcend all the others. And when that happens the loves of the past will fade away and be replaced with one far superior.
This gives me hope. This lets me know that something so mind-blowingly amazing is coming my way, and I can’t wait. I know I’ll recognize and appreciate it in a way I could never have done had I not gone through losing love in the past. I know I’ll be a better woman, a better lover, and partner to him when he comes.