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Ready for Love.

Ready for love.

So in January of this year I made a new vision board. One focused on finding love. I’ve always had love represented on my board, but after reading The Soulmate Secret I was ready to break old habits and learn a how to attract the right man.

I believe strongly that everything happens for a reason, and that truth has lead my life in a positive and beautiful direction the past five years. It’s also helped me to weather any storm and given me confidence that my dreams are manifesting even if at the moment that is sometimes difficult to see. So when the show came to me about doing a piece on dating I knew it was not only a manifestation of my dream to share my story with the world, but also part of the “find me a man” vibe I’d released into the universe a few months ago.

I’m the first to admit that dating has been difficult for me. In fact it’s totally sucked! I’d never dated before age 35 and it was all a bit of a train wreck to say the least! I went out with guys I shouldn’t have, because I knew I wouldn’t be interested, but I honestly didn’t know how to handle it or what to do. It was two years of trial and error, learning what type of guy I was interested in and learning how to set limits and boundaries and respect myself. It was probably a lot like being in college for most people, going through all of that for the very first time. All those heartbreaks, stupid mistakes, bad decisions, you name it. My kids are with me full time, so on the two weekends a month they were gone, I couldn’t handle being home without them so I’d meet someone for a drink or dinner, or coffee or whatever even if I wasn’t interested, sometimes just because that was the first person I’d have talked to all day. I’ve been blogging through all this time, so feel free to read those old blogs and see some of that cringe worthy pain first hand, back in the 2009/10 years! It wasn’t pretty. And I knew I needed and was open to whatever advise or help in that area I could get, so that’s what my reasoning was for doing the show. It was a manifestation on both fronts.

So now I’m in a good, healthy place and I’m open to receive love. I believe it will find me, when I’m ready, and I’m daily doing the work needed to get there so I think I’m close! I know that the first step is to be open, and I finally think I really am. I’ve done the work, taken the advise and am ready to put it into action!

I actually just finished doing an interview with Live with Laura and towards the end of it she gave an unexpected plug for my dream guy! So hey, I know he’s out there and who knows maybe he’s listening or reading this. If you know him, send him my way!


Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Steve Harvey’s Dating Advice

Steve Harvey’s datng advice.

So today was a pretty epic day… to say the least! I had my national television talk show debut on the Steve Harvey Show. I woke up this morning with that all too familiar knot in the pit of my stomach, the one that says “you are about to stand naked in front of the whole world, now’s a good time to freak out!” And I mean metaphorically naked of course, like the dream we had as kids giving a speech in front of our class naked, only this was in front of millions of people and I was totally (as is my norm) emotionally raw and exposed.

Sarah Centrella on Steve Harvey SHowBut it wasn’t long before the messages started pouring in on my Facebook pages, twitter and all the other media, and texts from people around the world, most I don’t know, supporting me and my dream. See I’ve had a dream for a few years now to share my story with the world on a talk show or reality show.  Although this episode was on a topic that is very relevant to me (dating), and not my story, it was still a huge manifestation of that dream, and I had a blast being part of it all. It was my first experience with all that, a live audience, camera’s out in a public place, hair and make-up and it was exactly what I’d always envisioned it to be.  It’s absolutely what I see in my long-term future and will continue to work towards.  Plus it got me a meeting with OWN/Harpo producers so I have nothing but gratitude for the entire experience, it was a dream come true.
Sarah Centrella Steve Harvey dating
Randy Ford was an amazing date and I had a blast

Not to mention I got some great dating advise, and if you’re a regular reader of my blog you know I need it! As I’ve said many times before Dating Sucks! I’ve struggled with my dating life since my divorce and will be the first one to say I totally suck at it. I was in a marriage/committed relationship from age 16-34 so dating is not really my thing, I’ll happily take any advise I can get!

I’m gonna keep hustling for my big dream and ignore all the haters, this was a huge step in the right direction and who knows hopefully I’ll even find love in the process.

If you have a dream go after it, even when it terrifies you, the biggest rewards come when you push past your fear and step out on faith. Thanks to everyone who’s loved and supported my journey, good bad and ugly.

Sarah Centrella on Steve Harvey
Sarah Centrella Steve Harvey
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Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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The Hustle. Are You All In?

What to know how you get from where you’re at right now, to that moment when you’re living your dream? It’s called HUSTLE and commitment! I was coaching one of my clients the other day and she mentioned her husband always comes back with the same response any time she talks about making a vision board or changing her life plan… “How?” Is all he wants to know. How are you going to do that?

Hustle is the how.  Commitment is the when. 

Those are the big questions we face when we are starting out. We look at our current circumstances, the reality of our “now” and say, how the hell am I going to achieve that end result? And when will it get here? It seems so impossible and overwhelming.  So unattainable.  And we focus on that for a while, and then we start to get depressed, and convince ourselves that it’s crazy to have set goals/dreams so out of our actual reach, and we slowly resign to the “truth” we believe, which is that we can’t really do it, so why bother trying.

I will be the first to raise my hand and say I’ve used this exact thought process throughout my life when it came to dieting and working out.  You look at yourself in the mirror, or in a picture that someone with no-photo-taking-skills took of you, and say “oh my god! I need to make a change!” So you put a picture on your wall of a perfectly fit person and you tell yourself every day that you are that perfectly fit person. And then you tell your girlfriend that you intend to become that perfectly fit person while eating a bag of chips and drinking a margarita. And she looks at you and says… “Oh realllllly? How?”  And you look at yourself and then at the picture, and you say… “Damnit, you’re right. That is ridiculous. What the hell, let’s have another drink!”

But the how was there all along.  You just didn’t want to really face it, or uncover what it’s made of because you knew it sounded a lot like WORK! And just like your dreams, even the ones you have a hard time fully defining they also all involve work. And it’s just up to you to decide if you are all in or not. If you are then you will get results, guaranteed but if you’re not, you are on your own!

What do I mean by all in? You have got to be committed to your end result. Here’s a perfect example…

My Saturday Morning…

Three years ago I started training to run the Portland Marathon. I am NOT a runner. I have never been a runner, was not in particularly stellar shape, and did not enjoy running in the slightest. However it sounded like something a successful women who had her life all figured out would do, and when I “created” that women on my first Future Board it seemed logical that a women like that would also run marathons in her free time.  So I signed up with Portland Fit, a training program that helps wannabe runners like me prepare to run the big race.

I showed up the first day in March (six months prior to the marathon) with hundreds of other runners and began jogging. As the weeks passed I realized what a major commitment I’d gotten myself into. I had to find a sitter in the evenings so I could do my practice runs at the gym and one for those early Saturday morning runs that I’d unknowingly committed to every Saturday for the next six months.  This was the HOW. This was the path from point A to the finish line. If I just showed up every week, did what I was told, and believed in my outcome I’d be able to cross that line in October.

But someplace in the back of my mind was a voice that said “you are out of your mind! A girl like you does NOT run marathons!” But I kept showing up week after week, putting in the work, buying the equipment, changing my diet and sleeping patterns. Taking it one day at a time. Before long I was in the best shape of my life and actually loving it. When people would ask me about the actual marathon I’d change the subject. They’d want to know if I’d registered for the event, and would remind me to do so before it sold out. I didn’t. I put it off and put it off, all the while showing up for my runs, and getting up to eighteen miles one Saturday… that day I’d heard the marathon had officially sold out. So I quit. Just like that.

You see I was never fully committed to my end result. I never fully believed it was achievable for me, and I manifested that exact result.  I put in the work, I was committed on the micro level but not bought in on the macro level.  And what I believed is the result I got.

This year I signed up with Portland Fit again, and Saturday was my first real run since quitting three years ago. This time I signed up for the marathon the same day, and have convinced myself that no matter what happens this time I’m crawling, half dead, over that damn finish line!

To get to your dream, you have got to be 200% committed to achieving that end result. To living that moment. For me it will be the moment when I cross the line and give my son a hug and say “see I did it!”  The only thing that will keep you going in the tough times, the ones where you want to give up is that commitment. The determination that nothing will prevent you from living your moment. That mixed with the daily hustle, and the belief that it’s possible is what calls the universe to align all your stars and make the pieces you can’t control work in your favor. But it’s not a magic wand. It’s a formula. If followed results will come, so decide if your all in. And if you are let nothing stand in your way, and realize this is a for life decision. This isn’t for a month or two, it’s for the rest of your life, this is the new you.

Cheers to that! Margarita anyone?

Commitment and hustle this time are gonna get me over the finish line!

Follow my journey to run the Marathon every Sat morning live on Twitter @SarahCentrella #MarathonLife

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Vision Board Success: 4 Steps to Manifesting your Dream Life.

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The key to vision board success, four easy steps to manifesting your dream life!

The point of a Vision Board is not to manifest a new car, or an expensive handbag, it’s to intentionally design your entire dream life. To create a LIFE PLAN. To reconstruct your life from the ground up, like an architect remodel’s an old building. You map out each area, room by room, creating a blueprint for a whole new masterpiece.  That’s what makes a vision board magical, because it’s the physical representation of the life you’ve carefully and thoughtfully redesigned.  You have the power to create your destiny; these four simple steps will help you do exactly that.

 

Step 1: The Audacity to Dream.

Learning how to dream can be surprisingly difficult for most of us in the beginning. It goes against our very nature, it feels foolish and ridiculous at first, but it’s a critical first step to success. A great way to get this process started is to create an extensive, all-inclusive bucket list. This is essentially a list of everything you would like to do, or experience in your lifetime. I love this exercise because it forces you to visually walk through your life and imagine what it could be.  Resist at all costs,
the urge to be “realistic”. This is a dream list, it’s not bound by your current situation, it’s not an action plan that you need to budget for, it is free from all those constraints.  If it helps, call it a “fantasy list”, or your “what if” list. On this list, all
things are possible; there are no boundaries, no limits, no expiration dates.  
 

Creating your Bucket List:
Sit down, alone, in a calm quiet space with a pen and paper, and relax. Begin writing down everything you have ever wanted to do. Travel the world? Where to? What do you want to see when you get there? Be specific, break down a topic like “Travel the world” into experiences. 
 
Example: I want to drink a bottle of wine on a terrace looking up at the Eiffel Tower.  You are creating a moment, and specific experience.The deeper you get into your list the more exhilarating this exercise should become.  Give yourself permission to feel excited and happy, the more you let go, the bigger you will dream, and the more effective this will be.

Step: 2 Create a Movie In Your Head.

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Now that you’ve created a bucket list and started imagining all the things you want to
do in your lifetime, it’s time to narrow it down for your vision board. Again pick a quiet spot, grab your note pad and write out these five categories as bullets:

1.     Family and relationships 
2.     Wealth and Finances 
3.     Health and well-being 
4.     Travel and vacations 
5.     Career and personal passion 

Next create a movie in your head about each category; one filled with so much detail you can see it every time you close your eyes.

To start, imagine your “dream life” five years from now, one where money is no object, and anything is possible.  Pick a day in your future life and begin creating your movie from the time you get up in the morning.  
 
Answer these questions:
What does your home look like? Who wakes up with you? What are you wearing? You have your dream job, but what is
it? What car do you drive? What role do friends and family play in this future life? Your future self takes vacations, so where have you just come back from or heading to? What has having wealth and financial freedom enabled you to do?
What do you look like? You’ve focused on your personal passion, so what’s that outcome look like?
 
This step is so important because it’s laying the foundation in your mind, that this is your future reality. You’ve transitioned
from a “what if” list, into a day in your future life. Putting your focus and intention on that is the magic. It’s the feeling of living a fulfilled, successful, blessed, happy life in every area, which sets manifesting in motion.
 
Now go over each bullet and fill in the details, from the movie you just created. 
 
Example: Family and Relationships: In your new life you’re married, and have several close friends, maybe you have a child
etc. List each desire out under that category. Do this for every category with as much detail as possible.
 
#visionboards I love

Step 3: Get to Work!

Now it’s time for the fun to begin! I like to start on Pinterest making a board for all five categories. Pinterest has the most beautiful pictures of the life you want to create, whatever that looks like for you. I love it because the photos tell a story. My “dream house” board looks so cozy, I can easily imagine myself unwinding with a glass of wine in the living room, or looking in the beautiful kitchens. In other words, you’re looking for pictures that visually and physically tell the story of your mind
movie
as accurately as possible. 
 
Remember we are looking for images that express our future life, its feel, its energy, its emotion.  When you look at the pictures, they should trigger an emotional attachment which plays your movie, enabling you to mindlessly, and happily daydream about it. So it’s not about a random picture of a sports car, it’s finding a picture that best describes what type
of car, or bag or shoes, or house your future, super-successful-self, would have. 
 
Example: A picture of an engagement ring, represents the desire to be engaged and in a happy healthy relationship. When you look at it, you’re not thinking; I want that exact ring, you’re thinking about the day the love of your life asks you to
marry him. 
 
Making your board
Once you have pictures representing your dreams for each category, print out your favorites. Grab a glass of wine, put on some fun music and enjoy the process like a little kid. Artfully arrange your pictures on a large cork board, making a section for each category. Keep going until your board is completely full and represents your future life. 
 
Then HANG IT UP! Put it in a place where you will see it every day, all day if possible. Put it on your desk at work, hang it on your bedroom wall. Every time you see it you are invoking the magic and creating your future. 
 
 
 

 Step 4: Believe in Magic.

By now there is a part of you that already believes in this magic. Along the way you’ve had to silence the voices in your head at each step that told you this was insane. But you did it, and by doing so, you’re on your way to seeing results. The other part of you wants to ask; how is any of this possible for me? Lucky for you, that’s not a question you need to worry about, as crazy as it sounds. You do not control the how or the when.  You only control your steadfast belief that this is your new future, and when the time is right each of these pieces will be drawn to you. By displaying your board you’re acting on that faith, and every time you look at it and play your movie, you are solidifying that belief.  But much of belief in the beginning is simply faking it until you make it. Speak it into existence even if you don’t fully buy-in yet, pretend you do. Begin talking about your new future, what it will feel like the day you realize your dreams. Keep your focus there. Don’t ever say “if”, say “when.”
 
Claim your future. Go about your life expressing gratitude as if it’s guaranteed, because it is.  
 
The magic begins to happen over time when you’re not even paying attention, but one day you’ll wake up and actually BELIEVE it, in every fiber of your being. Often your manifestations come quietly, unexpectedly and from a source you’d never expect. Stay aware and grateful and you’ll be there to receive them.  And before long you’ll wake up and be smack dab in the middle of one of those experiences you so carefully envisioned, and you’ll have a Deja vu feeling… and then you’ll remember; I have been here before, only this time it’s my reality. Those are the moments I live for, and have experienced over, and over again. Nothing feels as amazing or joyous as that moment, when you’re living out the life you
created.

 

 

 

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Single Mom’s Club… If Only.

sarah centrella's familyI just finished watching both of Oprah’s Life Class’s on Single moms, and though I was disappointed I wasn’t one of those chosen to be in the audience for the show, I was so grateful to her for doing it. The first show blew me away… all these mom’s in one room verbalizing the exact thing’s I’ve been feeling and experiencing for the last five years. It was honest to god the first time I’ve heard other woman say those things, and I cried watching it, because for the first time EVER I didn’t feel alone. I know it sounds crazy but unless you are a *single mom, there is just no way for you to relate to what we face on a daily basis. This is not “poor me” it’s just the reality we live in. I was married with three kids for almost nine years, so I believe I can speak from both sides of the coin. And trust me when I say; doing it alone and unmarried is not even in the same league, as doing it married or with a partner.

It was the first time I’d heard other woman say they deal with judgment from friends, family and the world at large for parenting alone. I swear I thought it was just me! And the first time I heard women cry because they are constantly beating themselves up about every little thing, and dealing with the intense isolation that makes you think you are losing your mind. And I heard Oprah say… Forgive yourself, because you are allowed to make a mistake. That one knocked the wind out of me. Because for whatever reason, that one is huge!  You really feel like you are not afforded the opportunity to make mistakes as a single mom.  Maybe because we have a different relationship with our kids, one where the line between parent and child is very blurred, and where the children are very aware of what goes on in their mom’s life, mostly because mom has no one to talk to on a daily basis but her kids. So decisions that would normally not involve children, or ones where they would normally be unaware of, now are a joint family decision. And when you fail there is no covering it up. There is no way that your kids aren’t involved in watching that failure, and sharing in that disappointment. The buffer zone does not exist. So we hold ourselves to this ridiculous standard where to shield our kids from our mistakes we go the extra mile to try not to make them, all the while making them of course, but just submerged in total self-loathing when we do. There is no one to say “it’s okay, you did the best you could, everything will be fine.” And because of that you never forgive yourself, you never stop questioning every little decision.

sarah centrella and kidsThere was a comment made however that did not sit well with me, one Iyanla Vanzant (whom I totally love) made when asked why so many single mothers complained about feeling judged. She turned it back to the mom, saying what are you feeling about yourself that you perceive people are judging you? And though I get and understand that physiology and normally agree with about everything Iyanla says, this one I don’t.  By saying that, she invalidated one of our biggest issues we face a single moms, one that the overwhelming majority in that room complained of as well. It’s NOT all in our head. It’s not just us feeling inadequate, then thinking people judge us. PEOPLE ACTUALLY JUDGE US all the damn time!

I used to be very close to my siblings and parents, until after my divorce. Once I became a single mom my family was so full of judgment, suddenly everything I was doing was wrong and they questioned every move I made. Even though I was the same mother to my kids who they had always said before was doing an amazing job. But now there was not buffer zone, no husband or marriage to “not intrude on”, I was fair game, and they all eventually turned their back on me. They couldn’t relate to me as a single mom. They had their ideas of how I should do things and felt their opinion was equal to my own. As a result I have basically no relationship with my family and haven’t for several years. So not only did my kids lose their father, they lost their grandparents and aunt and uncle as well.

Judgment is real, and we face it every day. The only way I’ve been able to combat it, or keep it from destroying me, is to rise above and try to redefine the term “single mom”, and break the stereotypes. Prove to people I’m “not that single mom”. It’s a driving force in my life on a daily basis. It’s entirely possible that all that judgment and “hatin'” is what’s driven me to succeed, so for that I am grateful.  Wherever motivation comes from to succeed, even if it’s just to prove people wrong, is just fine in my book!

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A perfect example of this was my girls kindergarten teacher in Washington.  From the start of the year I noticed that she would single out the girls and punish them for things non of the other kids would even be reprimanded for (asking to use the bathroom, their coat falling off the peg to the floor when they were seated at their desk, stuff that was just totally insane). She would keep them inside for recess because she didn’t like the shoes they wore that day, the list went on and on. Things got so bad she even tried to fail them! Mind you they were in kindergarten and were learning at or above their grade level. My last straw was at our first parent conference when my suspension was proven that she really did have an attitude with me (though we’d only at school functions) and my girls (who anyone who’s ever watched or been around them will say they are really well-behaved girls). At the conference she imminently began speaking so negatively about the girls in front of them, that I knew this was not a situation the girls could continue to be exposed to. I called a meeting with the principle and a mediator to try to understand what her problem was with my family.

When we sat down at the meeting her anger was visible, she clearly had a vendetta against me and my daughters.  When I asked her what the issue was she unleashed and in front of the school mediator and principle basically said that a single mom who works full-time can not be a good parent too. It was so unbelievably shocking. To have had my daughters judged to the point where their grades were effected (she actually copy and pasted the girls grades to each report card. Even the comments were exactly the same), all because she had some type of prejudiced against single moms.  It’s not something we make up that people around us are constantly judging us and our children, it is very, very real.  My girls were moved into two separate classes after that and did amazing, and finally started loving school instead of being afraid to go.

Today was another example, I took my kids to OMSI (science museum) in Portland and tried to buy a “family membership” the woman at the counter took my completed application and noticed the spot for “adult #2” was blank.  She looked at me (my kids leaning on the counter standing next to me looking at us both), and said; “you need a second adult to qualify for a family membership”. I thought she was kidding. I wasn’t complaining that I had to pay a membership that included 2 adults when I only had one (you’d think a discount would apply) I was simply trying to pay for the “family pass”.  But apparently our “family” did not qualify.  I was shocked and appalled.  “You can put down someone else, a family member” she tells me as if that’s any better. So I’m standing there with my kids, them all looking at me like “what’s wrong mama? What did we do?” And I’ve got no one to put down. No family. No friends that would ever be taking my kids to this thing. I don’t qualify.  Now not only are we not a “family” according to their definition, we are extra pathetic because I have no one to write down on a stupid form. Yes we are alone, but we don’t need constant insensitive reminders.

So no, it’s  not just in our heads. It’s real and we face awkward moments like that all the time.

The other thing Iyanla said in the second show that I can’t get behind is that single moms should allow the men they date into their kids lives, to meet them even when it’s a new relationship.  And what I, and other good single moms who don’t do that, worry about is we don’t want our kids getting attached to random men who don’t stick around. And her response was “don’t your girlfriends leave? Why shouldn’t guys just be people?” I gotta say this was shocking to me.  They aren’t “just people” they are men who at the end of the day are more interested in you than your kids and who want to “date you” and when things don’t work out they are gone for good. You can still occasionally see a girlfriend or a family member that you’re no longer close to, it’s not that way with men. I’m not saying this as the bitter old chick, who thinks all men are pigs, I don’t. But I do know dating, with or without kids is something that can last a month, a few months or longer, but why bring your kids into all that mess? Why? What’s the point of that? It makes no sense to me at all. If you feel like he’s “the one” than yeah, that’s different. But come on now. That’s one of the single mom stereotypes I have tried hardest to never get stuck with, because that’s not me. And yes I’m sure there is a balance (in 5 years being single, no guy I’ve dated has met my kids) which I’m realizing I should probably find, but still… I’m never gonna be one of those woman who has men rotating in and out of my kids lives. I’d rather be happily single!

But I am so grateful to Life Class for bringing this topic up and opening this discussion, because we do feel so alone.  And it was amazing to at least for a minute feel “normal” like I’m not crazy to feel this way, and that there are millions of us out there silently facing this struggle and trying to turn it into a blessing. I’m excited to see Tylor Perry’s movie Single Mom’s Club, I’m really hoping it portrays us in a positive light and shows our struggles in a realistic way. I think we need more avenues like this, we need more support and a sense of community for those of us who don’t have one.

the single moms clubI salute all you hard-working single parents out there, who are doing it without support or help and who are dedicated loving parents.  It’s not easy, but damn I wouldn’t change a thing about my experience, struggle and all. At the end of the day I’m a very blessed mama.

 *to all you single dad’s out there, don’t get offended by my use of “single-mom” it can very well mean single parent…. obviously all I can speak to and know anything about is the “mom” part.

 

 

 


 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Little Dreamer.

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive An 8-Step Plan to Changing Your Life and Living Your Dream.

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Living My Dream.

Tomorrow will quite possibly be the biggest day of my life (aside from the day my babies came into the world of course), but epic non-the-less. And it’s impossible to try to do justice to the flood of emotions I’m feeling, with words on a page, but I will try.

If you’ve followed my story, than you know that I’m a chick on a mission to PROVE that the law of attraction (as I know it, aka the #HBRMethod) works, and that anything is possible for ANYONE. And you also know how much I’m totally obsessed with Oprah. I credit her for giving me the tools that changed my life, and I’ve been out to prove those tools can work for anyone, using myself as a Genny-pig. As you know that decision has been life altering for me, and continues to be on a daily basis and I see more and more of my dreams becoming a reality. You’ve seen me struggle; and work, and fall down, and get back up, and want to quit, and fight through the defeat to try again. And you’ve seen it WORK. You KNOW it works, I know you do.

This is why I’ve kept going when I wanted to quit, because I have three babies at home who I told my dream to five years ago, and who’ve grown up with that dream inside of them the way it’s inside of me. And when I want to quit they look at me and say; “Mama, why haven’t you met Queen Oprah? She’s on your vision board!” And I think, good point.. I can’t tell you anything is possible, and then not prove it to you. So I hustle hard all over again. This isn’t just my dream, it’s the dream of my babies and it’s the ultimate proof to each of you that anything is possible. This is for you too, for all of us who want a life that we didn’t think we deserved to dream of.

I’m in Chicago right now, and yesterday I decided to go to HARPO studio (Oprah’s headquarters) in the below zero cold, stand outside and take a selfie in front of her sign, then walk by the front door and visualize going inside, having a meeting with producers, telling them my story and my dream. And so I stood there in the freezing cold lookin’ a fool while my cabbie waited for me, and I tweeted the pic to Oprah and the President of OWN, like I’ve tweeted to them for years.

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The pic I tweeted to Oprah and Sheri

And ten minutes later the President of OWN TV followed me on twitter, and an hour later she sent me a message, where upon reading it I immediately burst into tears and started hyperventilating! All night I lie awake envisioning my dream, that moment walking down the halls meeting everyone, face-timing the kids so they could go through that moment with me. I just knew there was more to come. I’ve worked so hard for it the past few years, I’ve prepared, I knew this moment was on it’s way. I’ve always known it. I couldn’t sleep a wink.

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Then today I got an email from the executive VP that they’d like to meet with me tomorrow before I head back home to Portland. I was in the middle of lunch chatting with a woman next to me when I saw the email come across my phone, and started screaming right in the restaurant, and crying and hyperventilating! This is the moment. The one I’ve hustled and believed in and worked for, it came to me, just like manifestations always do. If I’d not put in the work, all these years, and the determination, then it would never have manifested. The manifestation is the “magic” ingredient that little piece of beautiful fairy dust that bridges the gap between our effort and the end result. It delivers timing, and stars aligning and all that jazz, all the pieces we can not. It’s the piece other people call luck, but I know there is no “luck”. I know it’s opportunities that I’ve created showing up when I’m ready to receive them. And so tomorrow I’ll have my moment, and I’m ready. I’m calm right now, (I’m probably start crying in the meeting), I have prepared for this moment and it couldn’t come fast enough!

I share this story as I do all my manifestations so you can see first hand the cause and effect. I want you to realize that at every little tiny juncture that was a tiny ray of hope for me (the tweets from OWN TV a few weeks ago, all those tiny little signs), I celebrated each one so huge! And with such joy! To the outside world it probably seemed crazy but I knew it was all part of the big picture coming together and I relished the joy of each little win. That is such a big part of manifesting the life you want, live in the joy of every minute win. Celebrate how far you’ve come, cherish the moment. Laugh, cry, start hyperventilating, whatever you gotta do to feel it. Because I can tell you first hand, I’m standing smack-dab in the center of my dream, and it’s taking my breath away.

PS. Totally cried listening to this song on the treadmill tonight! (the song “Believe” you might have to skip through to find it)

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Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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