Monthly Archives: November 2012

My Stories

I Had A Bad Day.

bad day quote

I had a bad day, today. Yup, one of those lay on the floor and fall apart kinda days. The kind when it feels like you just heard one to many “no’s” in a row. When the final one, simply made you snap and want to throw in the towel, quit. 

I’ve had a hard time the last few months, trying to fight the obvious truth which is that I’m not happy living in Seattle.  It’s been something I’ve been trying to talk myself into since the start but that has progressively taken it’s tole on my spirit.

So you might have noticed that I haven’t blogged that much lately, and only posted chapters from my memoir, because I was feeling very uninspired. I was keeping the faith and trying hard to stay in the right positive mindset, but what I really wanted to say, was this sucks! I want to move home, I want the sun, I miss my friends, and I am ready for the next phase to begin. I’m frustrated and tired of waiting. But it’s hard to come out and say that when people look to you to help them get out of the very same types of mental situations.  And maybe it was just that, which prompted me to have the courage to write my truth tonight.  An email from a women, who’d been having success with the Law of Attraction and then hit the down times that we all face, so she asked me how to get out of it. And asked me if I still ever go through that.  Of course I answered that yes I do.

And so, because I’ve made a promise to keep using this blog as my personal outlet, I will continue to show the bad days and the good. Because yes, I have the bad days too. The ones when I question everything, when I wonder if my dreams will come true, when I ask “there must be more to life than this”. Yep I have those too. I’ve been going through one the last few weeks.

Here’s what I have to say about the dark days:

1. You will have them, period. There will always be bad days, no matter how much success you achieve, or how happy you are or how much of your dreams you manifest. You will still have bad days.  You will still find yourself asking “is this my life?” You will, I promise.

2. It’s OK to have bad days.  It’s OK to cry.  To be frustrated, and even to feel defeated. It doesn’t mean that you’ve lost hope, or faith or that your not on the right path. I doesn’t mean that your dreams will never come true, or that having one will erase all the good work you’ve put in to change your mindset and your life.

3. It’s OK to have a pity party every once in a while. OK to wallow in disappointment when it’s punched you in the face.  It’s part of being human, and admitting that, and feeling that, doesn’t change where you are in your journey.  It just gives you the breathing time you need to soak it in and recover. It’s a necessary part of the process.

4. It doesn’t mean you’re week. Or that you don’t  have the power to change your mood, attitude and situation.

Here’s how I get through them:
 

1. Recognize it.  I’ve known for the last few weeks that I was “in a funk” or unhappy or whatever you want to call it. I could immediately tell, because I try very hard to be present and in the moment of whatever I’m going through. So I knew. I also knew that on some level I didn’t want to fight it, I kinda wanted to be depressed about it and wallow. Today is when it hit the low point for me, and when I knew I needed to put an end to it. It was time to stop pouting, and being negative and snap out of it. When we recognize it, we immediately know we have that choice, to either feed the negativity and frustration or kill it. I admittedly had chosen to feed it, until I was very frustrated and defeated, and was forced to make the choice to kill it.

2. Snap out of it.  So today being my turning/low point day; I allowed myself to vent, cry, post my frustration, bitch to my girlfriends…. all the stuff you go through when you feel utterly defeated and down.  I love that my Facebook friends immediately gave me a cyber hug that I needed, so I didn’t feel so alone in that moment.  And then I went back to my own basics and made the choice to knock it off. 

Here’s what I did:
  • I started by cleaning the house as soon as I got home, spotless, which always makes me feel more in control.  A sparkling house makes me somehow feel better and more at peace.  While I did that I began to go through all the things I’m grateful for, as I went through each room.  So when I was done the house looked and smelled amazing, and I realized how truly grateful I actually was.
  • While I cleaned I played my hip-hop motivation play list, which picked me up and helped me refocus my attention on what I want, not what I don’t.
  • When the house was clean I put on spa music, lite some candles and made an organic pumpkin and yogurt face mask… took a moment to just breath and relax.
  • Then I took some very important steps that will hopefully help change my situation and enable me to move back home.
  •  And then I read all my favorite Napoleon Hill quotes, like this one: “One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken by temporary defeat.”
  • I just spent the last hour on Pinterest pinning away my dream life, and a ton of motivational quotes.  And now I’m happy to report, I am starting to feel like my old self again. Back in control.

 

success quote

Happiness is a choice. It’s not an achievement.  It’s something that we wake up in the morning and say “I chose to be happy today”.  It’s not something that I’m going to search for my entire life, and wake up one day realizing that my life is over and I never chose to be happy while it was passing me by.  I’m not going to wait for it to come to me, I’m going to create it here, now.  It’s in my hands, and I chose to stop pouting and start working harder than ever to make my dreams come true, and to be happy in the moments, even the ones that I don’t necessarily like. This is better than the alternative which is letting the negative stuff engulf me, I’ve been there and I can report it’s less fun that just about anything you can imagine! So I’m all good on that.

I’ll keep pressing forward toward my dream because giving up is just ridiculous. I may want to at times, but I will never quit.

happiness quote

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

Follow on social media: Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat | Pinterest | YouTube |Periscope @sarahcentrella

My Stories

Uninspired.

sadness and rain
It NEVER stops raining…

I’m feeling uninspired lately.¬† I know me uninspired? It happens.

I think it’s primarily living in Seattle that is really getting to me in a way I can no longer shake.¬† I can finally admit it, I’m not happy here at all. It’s like living at the bottom of hell. I’m sorry to all of you Washington and Seattle people, not trying to bag on your home, but it’s just NOT for me. I can’t take it. The black days, the endless rain, the miserable traffic, the unfriendliness of the people.¬† I’ve lived here a year and haven’t met a single person. And that’s not like me.

I’m all for doing whatever it is I need to do to succeed and provide for my family, and the reason I came here was, and still is a great one. For a great job, but it’s been such a personally draining, depressing, and generally difficult year trying to adjust up here.¬† And I’ve officially decided I can’t take it anymore! My heart wants to move to Washington DC so bad, I’d do it in a minute if I could make it happen, and hopefully someday I can. But if nothing else I need to move back home to Portland where at least the sun occasionally shines, the sky isn’t a black blanket on top of you, and my friends can be part of our lives again. I need it. I’m slowly losing my motivation and there are days when it feels like all my goals and dreams will never come true. Or that I’ve missed the boat on them.


rain I get discouraged.¬† I work so hard and make so much progress and then… nothing. Or… closed door after closed door.¬† I’ve spent the last year writing my memoir, only to be told by 22 publishers and countless agents that I’m not a writer. That the story would be good if someone who knew how to write took on that task. Some days it just feels like you take one road and it dead ends, then the next hits a brick wall, until your surrounded by walls… that’s were I feel I am now.

Frustrated. Discouraged. Lonely and annoyed.  All things that should NEVER describe me. I need to make a change.

I’m not going to quit, obviously. I don’t quit. I’ll keep on keeping on.¬† I’ll keep on believing and keep on hustling to make my life exactly what I want it to be, not just financially but where I live, and who I love.

I want it all. Yesterday.

But today I want to sit home in the black rain and cook comfort food with my babies, and stay in my PJ’s, and dream of a day where I will wake up to sun, and blue sky, and my book will be published and I’ll be out of this funk. Here’s to that.

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

Follow on social media: Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat | Pinterest | YouTube |Periscope @sarahcentrella

Parenting

Jim Brickman: Soundtrack to My Life.

Jim Brickman image
Jim Brickman

Tonight I took the kids to their first concert ever.¬† No it wasn’t Taylor Swift (though they would have loved that) and no, it wasn’t Justin Beiber.¬† It was legendary contemporary romantic piano artist Jim Brickman.¬† What? You say.¬† You took your five year old kids to watch someone play piano for two plus hours at 8:00 PM on a school night?

Why, yes I did.

Can I just say, I’ve wanted to see Jim Brickman perform live for the past fifteen years, way back when I first heard his magical style of hypnotic piano music.¬† The piano has always had some type of magical spell on me.¬† I remember once in high school listening in the hallway for hours, to the one kid at my boarding school who
knew how to play it in a way that entranced me.¬† I’d hide in the hall sitting with my arms around my knees, close my eyes, put my head back against the wall, and let my mind go.¬† Maybe that’s why, when I discovered Jim Brickman in my early twenties I was instantly in love. He became the soundtrack to my life.

Back then, I was young and in love, and trying oh so hard to be grown up and mature.¬† So I’d put on one of his albums, poor a glass of wine, light some candles and try to convince my then boyfriend (later husband) how cool and romantic it was.¬† Then when I was planning my wedding in 2000 I knew there was one song that would need to be played during our ceremony “The Love of My Life“, and during our slide show prior to me walking down the isle we played “Valentine” also by Jim.

And then a few years later in 2003 when my bag was packed to head to the hospital to have Kanen, I made my husband run back in the house for my Jim Brickman cd’s and they played all throughout my labor.¬† When Kanen was born it was the CD that played in his room at nap and bedtime, and the one I’d play in the car to instantly stop his crying.

Needless to say the same has been true for my girls, and every night of their life they have gone to sleep listening to one of his CD’s.¬† And then a few months ago we passed the tradition along to my girlfriend and her kids, and I watched how instantly it calmed them the same way it always had my own.

Tonight I got a little teary eyed when my wedding songs played, and again when the lullabies played and I thought… wow this really has been the music that has quietly been there through it all. Through love, happiness, endless joy, heartbreak, rebuilding, and especially parenting.

So I just want to take a moment and say thank you, Jim.¬† Thanks for so graciously meeting the kids and I after the concert even though we didn’t have passes, and thank you for always being there to calm my nerves and make me feel like no matter what I face… I am never alone.

PS.¬† I just want to say that moment’s like tonight are amazing for multiple reasons, not the least of which was the simple fact that for the first time I was able to afford to take all four of us to an event like this.¬† As you know being a single mom and struggling the past few years to get back on my feet, these types of things have been almost impossible for me to do with all of us… so that felt great.¬† But what felt even better was the fact that my kids were basically the only ones there tonight (think we saw two others about Kanen’s age) and they were amazing! They sat quaintly spellbound (yes my five year olds!) so polite, and adorable and everyone kept coming up to us all night saying how great they were doing and how great it was that I’d brought them and that they could appreciate it. That made me really happy, I want to be the kind of mom who exposes my kids to everything across all sectors of life and it was great to see them love something that I love so much.¬† Yay to parenting, respectful, gracious well mannered kids, nothing is a bigger accomplishment in life then that!

Yay first concert! There’s Jim Brickman

 

Cheers! Shirley temples and Chardonnay before the show
Sarah Centrella's kids at Jim Brickman concert
show time!
Intermission mama time
Sarah Centrella's twin daughter Mira
Fav pic of the night, Mira cuddled up asleep as soon as she heard her “night night song” aweee
Jim Brickman concert
Such fun, thanks again Jim for the pic and for hearing our story… so gracious.

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

Follow on social media: Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat | Pinterest | YouTube |Periscope @sarahcentrella

Dating

Roller-Coaster of Love.

Travel
Coming back form our monthly visit in DC this weekend

It feels good to be off the roller-coaster.¬† A broken heart can really knock the wind out of you. Can sweep you under the rug and knock you sideways. It makes you sick to your stomach on a daily basis. Makes you think your seriously losing your mind.¬† It seems like I felt that way ever since the day I met him over a year ago… amazing and tragically sad the entire time.¬† And in the end, emotionally depleting and crushing.

After months of working through it, I vowed that if I ever felt “better” I’d promise to only love myself for the foreseeable future. No more roller- coaster.¬† No more waiting for a call or a text or a promise that will never be fulfilled. No more love.

I didn’t think I’d ever actually “feel better”.¬† But recently I realized that I finally do. I can finally go a day or even two without thinking about him.¬† Or missing him, that’s huge.¬† And that’s the healing I’ve been waiting for.

It’s funny how when some things end others step up to fill that void, but in a different way, and that’s what I’ve discovered has slowly been happening all along.

A year ago I made a post on my vision board that I wanted to build stronger friendships with my girlfriends, work on those relationships for a change. And then from no where, came just that friendship.¬† When I wasn’t expecting it, and from the most unlikely direction, and it has changed me in so many amazing ways.¬† It seems like the past four years I’d lost everyone close to me, brothers, sisters, parents, family, old friends, new friends…. so many people who just couldn’t or didn’t want to make this journey with me.¬† I’d gotten more closed off with each exit, and less and less attached to anyone but my kids as the yeas past.¬† And then she came into my life and cracked me up, and reminded me I can still laugh like crazy, and be stupid, and be myself, both the good and the bad… and she reminded me what it feels like to have a sister, and a family.¬† I feel so blessed and grateful that I could let go of something so painful on one hand, and open myself up to something even more amazing on the other.

And it feels fucking great to be off the emotional roller-coaster of love let me tell you! No plans to hop back on any time soon!!!

So here’s to true friends who support you, stand by you, and love you through the good and bad. Here’s to choosing your family.

P.S. For those of you reading my post to learn more about how the Law of Attraction works, and what a manifestation looks like, the above is a perfect example.¬† But here’s one more: I’ve loved and wanted to move to Washington DC for years, but it’s obviously a difficult thing to do with three small kids.¬† So what would be the next best thing if your the universe granting wishes??? Put me there once a month to enjoy it and the bestie, but still get to come home to my family.¬†

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

Follow on social media: Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat | Pinterest | YouTube |Periscope @sarahcentrella

Hustle.Believe.Receive. Your Life Coach

The Easy Guide to Being Grateful

thankful quote

Someone asked me recently how¬†you can find hope when you’re at the bottom. How do you start the process¬†of changing your life when you are as low as you’ve ever been? What’s the¬†one thing you can do to start making that change?¬† I believe it’s¬†without question gratitude. Being thankful for the smallest things in¬†your life. Even if it’s just food and water… start there. Start with¬†being grateful for three things in your life. The changes will follow.¬† ¬†

Here’s a quick guide on how to start.
  1. Make a list of every single thing you can
    possibly think of, that you are thankful for in this moment, on this day.  List even the things you take for granted, like having a place to call home, heat and electricity, food to eat etc.  List it all.
  2. Chose five items on your list you are the most grateful for, and repeat them over and over to yourself. Really think about each one.
  3. Visualize your life without each one of those things on your list.  One at a
    time. Picture your life without it.¬† Then¬†go back to your ‚Äúgrateful thoughts‚ÄĚ about them.¬†¬† How did that make you feel? Do you¬†legitimately feel grateful for them now
  4. Post your list where you can see it every day.  Maybe on your bathroom mirror so you can read over it while getting ready in the morning.
  5. Come up with some mantras around your gratitude list that you can draw on anytime
    your mind wants to go into ‚Äúbitch mode‚ÄĚ. ¬†For example one of mine is: ‚ÄúI am beautiful, I am healthy, I have more¬†than enough to provide for my family.‚ÄĚ
    That mantra for me combats the topics I‚Äôd normally want to ‚Äúbitch about‚Ä̬†aka ‚ÄúI feel ugly‚ÄĚ etc‚Ķ gratitude mantras help keep you focused. Say them ten¬†times over and over in your head whenever your thoughts start making a run for¬†the quicksand. A good mantra will stop them in their tracks every time!

           The purpose of gratitude is to make us aware and present in our lives.  To teach us not to take anything
for granted.  It’s so easy to get caught up in our daily life, and forget all the good things that are part of our
environment.  Gratitude lets you reconnect with all of that, keeps you present in the moment and focused on your
goal. It is the first an most essential step in changing your life.  

gratitude quote

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

Follow on social media: Instagram | Twitter | Snapchat | Pinterest | YouTube |Periscope @sarahcentrella

%d bloggers like this: