Sarah’s Advice. Reader Question: Cancer.

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in Health & Fitness, Your Life Coach — No Comments ↓
*This email chain is exact, and used with Sue’s permission. I felt it was an important one to share in it’s entirety as it’s dealing with a very sensitive subject, Health. I hope that it’s helpful for any of you going through similar situations.
Dear Sarah,
     I love reading your blog and find it an inspiration.
I discovered the Law of Attraction through reading The Secret, I know it works but could do with some extra help at the moment.
     Our 17 year old son has just been diagnosed with testicular cancer and will start chemotherapy soon.
     Even though the cure rate is over 98% I am struggling with staying positive and worry that all the sadness around us at present will affect other areas of our life in a negative way.
I would appreciate any thoughts you may have on staying positive and do you think you can transfer thoughts of healing to other people as my son doesn’t believe in The Secret.
Thank you for your time, wishing you health and happiness.
Best Wishes,
Sue
My Thoughts:
Dear Sue,
First let me say that your story brought tears to my eyes, I cant imagine being in your place right now. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be to keep faith alive in the middle of something so scary.
Here are my thoughts on your questions….
1.    In a time of intense trial like you are facing right now, the one thing that should give you comfort and hope is to KNOW that it will work out in the end. You mentioned that the cure rate is 98% which is amazing, so my advice would be to focus on that as diligently as possible.    Realize that when things like this come into our lives and happen to us that we can’t see what their purpose is in that moment. We don’t understand why or how any good can come from something tragic. But the Law of Attraction has taught me that in ever difficult situation no matter how trying that if we remain faithful to our belief and trust it to deliver us magically from the situation, that it will. 
     Much of what your facing is likely out of your control, so trust that what you are affirming (“my son will fully recover, he is healthy, he will live a long and healthy life”) will be your reality. Just believe it with EVERY FIBER OF YOUR BEING.  KNOW that in a year or 2 from now, he will be active and healthy and back living a “normal” life. Trust it. Let yourself visualize what that will be like when he has beaten this and it’s all behind you. Have faith that he will fully recover, imagine all of your lives back to that happy healthy place. Maybe plan a vacation or trip for this time next year. Give all of you something to look forward to.
2.    If you keep hope and faith alive (I know how hard it can be) and plan for you and your sons future like you normally would, and don’t let yourself dwell too long on what is lost (idk if maybe he can’t have children now…?? or something else) but stay focused on what you want and believe the outcome to be, then I absolutely believe that your thoughts and faith are enough for your whole family, including your son. Sometimes to believe we need proof, and your son rightfully is probably at a place where belief is very difficult and it seems like he’s facing proof of only bad things happening, therefore why believe? I fully understand that…so your faith is strong enough for him. He will see by the example you set that everything is going to be ok. That’s what he needs to see in your face and hear from you, so that you can be “The Secret” for him, and The Law of Attraction will give you that strength.
3.     I don’t believe the negative/sadness that your family is facing at this time will affect other areas of your life. I believe that as long as your remain focused on your end goal which is having your family together in a “normal” way doing regular things that you will get it. I really think doing a vision board or thinking about what that looks like, defining it will help you have hope. Put the pictures up of a vacation you want to take with him or things you want to do with him, then start talking about it, looking at the pictures and visualizing it. And one day soon, you will be experiencing that day with you son, just the way you envisioned it.
     My prayers, and heart go out to you and your family and I send you so much love 🙂
Sarah
Sue’s Reply:
Dear Sarah,
Thank you so much for your reply. I can’t tell you how much it lifted my spirits and my belief levels. You write beautifully and to think that someone who doesn’t know me shows such caring is awesome.
I am already planning a family holiday for the new year and am going to update my vision board.
Dan starts his chemotherapy in 2 weeks so if I may I will let you know how things go.
How are things going for you now?
Wishing you health, wealth and happiness
Best Wishes and much thanks
Sue
My Thoughts: Reply
Awe Sue, I would LOVE LOVE to know how things are going with Dan! Your story touched me so much…I literally read it and thought about it for 2 days.. it moved me so much.
My Doctor found tumors in my thyroid 2 years ago that thank god are at this point still non-cancerous but I know the fear that put into me, and living with the possibility they could still become cancer…but that is nothing compared to what you guys are facing. However I love that your heart and mind is in the right place and your effort and intention is in the right place…that is all you need, the rest will come on its own.
I’m so happy you are planning a vacation I think that will be wonderful for you all to look forward to.
Keep me posted! xoxo
Sarah
Sue’s Update:
Hi Sarah.
I hope you are well, thought I would send you a quick update on my son as he nears the end of his first cycle of treatment.
He is coping really well and is continuing a normal teenage life! His spell in hospital was a little hard for him as he felt poorly but once home recovered quickly.
Before chemotherapy he had surgery and I just wanted to share with you how reading The Power helped me.
I didn’t like the hospital he was due to go in due to past experiences. However as I began to feel anxious about the visit I thought of all I had learned about the LOA. On the way there I kept repeating how I loved this hospital as it was a place of healing and how everyone was kind and helpful. I became relaxed which helped my son and his surgery went well and everyone was great! I no longer fear hospital visits as I just imagine them as awesome places of healing.
Hope all is going well for you
Take care
SueMy Reply

     Thank you so much Sue for the update and I LOVE how you were able to turn your negative anxiety about the hospital into a positive place, because in reality you are so lucky the hospital and Doctors caught and treated your sons cancer early thanks to them he will make a full recovery! So he’s there to get well, not because he’s sick. I love that!UPDATE: Oct 1, 2011
I just received an email from Sue, her son just received the all clear from Doctors!!! So very happy for her and her family 🙂

 

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Parenting How To Love

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in Parenting, Single Mom Life — 3 Comments ↓
Parenting, it’s taught me how to love. Love is a funny thing. We all believe we have the capacity to love, and indeed we do, but do we really know HOW to love.
I was listening to a new song by Little Wayne “How to Love” and started paying attention to the lyrics, and was taken aback by the concept that for many, probably the majority of human beings really don’t know how to love. Maybe they have never been unconditionally loved, by their parents, family, pets or anyone else for that matter.
If you’ve never had unconditional love do you know how to give it?

It’s taken for granted in our culture that children unconditionally love their parents and that of course parents unconditionally love their children. But if that wasn’t your childhood reality how deeply does that affect your adult/parenting reality?
Luckily love like anything else on the planet, can be taught, learned and practiced. You can actually LEARN how to love something or someone. That’s pretty powerful.
mother daughter love
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Here’s a great example.

I was not raised by an over nurturing/cuddling/loving mother. She was very direct and to the point. Often more consumed with the things swirling around in her brain, then nurturing or loving us children. Therefor when I became a parent I had to consciously make choices that made me a cuddly, doting loving mother, because that was not behavior I’d ever witnessed or experienced firsthand.
One of my daughters is very independent. She has been from birth. She never particularly wanted or needed to be cuddled she would rather be off doing something more exciting. As a baby she’d rather jump in her bouncy than be rocked. I never really thought much of it; I just felt that it was her personality. But by about 3 I realized she really didn’t like to be cuddled or “loved”, she’d give a hug and a kiss and be off, that was enough for her.
So I tried a little experiment.
I applied the law of attraction.
I decided to smother her in loves and kisses, and play time and cuddling. At first she hated it! She fought it; she just really seemed like the personality type that doesn’t need it. But I kept it up. I overwhelmed her with lots of gushy love. By the start of the second week she began to cave. And by the end of that week she was my little cuddle bug, and has been ever since.
I taught her how to love. That it was ok. And in the process I taught myself too. Because I didn’t have that as a child it’s one of those things I had to “fake it until you make it”. I forced something that didn’t seem natural in our relationship, until it did.
This is not to say that we didn’t have a loving relationship full of hugs and kisses before, we definitely did. I have always as a parent been that way with my kids, but this was a deeper level. This was pushing the envelope for both of us, something I wasn’t honestly sure would work for her or me. It was a level of closeness we just hadn’t had before. All of my children are naturally independent, happy and loving. But they were never the type to need to be held all day, which as a single mom of 3 I considered a blessing, from a sheer ability standpoint.  I have always been proud of their confidence and independent take charge nature, but I wanted to see if I could create that softness too. And I did.
The beauty of it for me is that all of us no matter our age or what we have been through in life, we can be taught how to love. We can slowly allow someone to love us, smoosh us with their love to soften that independent nature, its ok to need someone. It’s ok to give up some of that independence. It’s ok to really love and be loved.
The best way to receive love is to give it away.
So if you don’t have anyone in your life giving you that kind of deep, unconditional love, find someone to give yours too. When you do you will realize that it melts the walls in your heart and love will come back to you 100x’s over.
Just give it away.
To your friends, to your children, your spouse, your pets, even strangers through kindness…give love away. It will teach you how to love, and it will boomerang.

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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The Dating Game

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in Dating, My Stories, Single Mom Life — 4 Comments ↓
So here’s the thing. I HATE dating. I mean it’s been a whole two years of my life that I’ve been at this game, and I can say honestly, and with deep conviction that I’m so OVER it!  It’s weird because I was with my ex-husband from age 16 to 33 so I never had the opportunity to date, and never thought I would, or cared to for that matter. So the past tow years have been an interesting ride that’s for sure.
dating game
I don’t know what dating at any other age, or stage of life would be like, say in your late teens or twenties because I never dated then. My guess is that it would be less complicated. At those ages you are still figuring out who you are, so you are willing to put up with your mate doing the same. Besides you really don’t know what you want so all you ultimately care about is, are they HOT?? A few other factors might apply like a main mutual common interest, but honestly it’s all about bang-ability and chemistry in those tender years of the love search. Hence when you find someone who meets that limited criteria, you are off to the races, alter bound (as was true with my young love). But alas for 50% of us that isn’t the magic answer either. At some point in time one or both of you will decide that love is not all that matters in a relationship and perhaps you should of cast your net a little wider, and had a few other things on your checklist. Especially if you threw kids into married life, then the bang-ability/chemistry is probably no longer a major factor anyway (just being real).
So that brings us to the stage of dating I currently find myself in, my mid-thirties (God that’s depressing! I was “early” thirties when this started! Ugh). But now, though dating might still be relatively new to me, the rest of it is not. I know what I want and more importantly what I DON’T. I’ve been through the bumps, and like we all do when we play this game, I’ve been banged up and bruised. But I’ve also learned so much about myself in the process, and I’ve made some truly great life-long friends along the way.
There is something that comes with a combination of knowing who I am, and what I want, mixed with 5% free time, and a very low tolerance for BS that results in my general lack of enthusiasm. One thing you learn quickly is that though every guy what’s you to think they are not like all the rest….honey please! They ARE a guy, so duhh! Regardless of how convincing that game might be in the beginning when it comes down to it, there are very very few that have an ability to stand out in the crowd long term.
If I met a man who:
  • Was who he said he was.
  • Was as fun to be around in person as on the phone/text.
  • Treated me the same in person as virtual (and I’d hope better…just saying!).
  • Kept his word.
  • Wasn’t a flake.
  • Was kind but still manly.
  • Thoughtful (even a little).
  • And had the ability to communicate, show up on time, and be a gentleman…..I’d fall on my face!! (After that list was DEMONSTRATED and not talked up).
dating
 I really don’t think that list is unrealistic. I might be crazy, but it seems like its kinda common sense. And the difference in dating at this stage in the game and dating 10 years ago is I just can’t tolerate the crap. I get that everyone has what they are great at and things they are week on, so if you communicate with me on any of these points I’ll be understanding and try to accommodate them as best I can. But don’t talk talk talk…and never do, and still expect to have a shot, that’s all I’m sayin!
I will always believe that everyone has a soul mate; I’m a hopeless romantic at heart and know like I KNOW, like I KNOW that when the time is right I will find mine. I’m not worried about it, but in the meantime, I’m beyond bored of the game.

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Are You For Real??

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in My Stories — 3 Comments ↓
This post is in response to a reader Jim’s comment on Good News…Everything Happens For A Reason!
I have added him as a friend on Facebook and he asked how it’s possible that I can go through the difficulties I write about on my blog (no job, no home for a few weeks ect) but still post on FB that I’m doing great things like going to expensive places/fitness classes ect. He feels that the me of FB and the me of this blog are different. (Feel free to check out his comment on the link above).
     Thanks for your feedback I appreciate it. I love that you asked this question because it’s something that I want to make sure that all my readers understand, so your timing is great!
     One of the things you will notice if you read my blogs, especially everything I have written about the Vision Board, is that it doesn’t take MONEY to live the kind of life you want. What it takes is faith and belief in magic.

You will notice that my Facebook says the same thing that my blog does, that I have been without work since the beginning of May, and was out of our home from June 2nd until this past Sunday (I have lots of photos and posts daily on it).   Anyone is welcome to friend request me on FB, I always accept and welcome new friends. My life in an open book. I update my status constantly, and I have the link to friend request me here.
It’s a great way to see me deal with the lows (I get frustrated just like everyone does) and celibate the highs (I use FB check-in when I go out, and post pics and updates all day, mind you this is my PERSONAL FB so 90% of my friends ARE my PERSONAL friends. So my posts are personal in nature, it’s me living out loud!And my personality is outgoing and lively).

     You asked about how I can go to expensive fitness classed without a job…I go to Bikram Yoga which is very expensive and considering I’ve been going through a difficult financial time I worked it out with the owner so that I can clean the studio once a week in exchange for unlimited classes. This saves me over $100 a month (this option is available at most studios BTW you just need to ask). I also paid my gym membership upfront at the beginning of the year, so thank god I’ve been able to take out some stress in spinning class and hitting the gym. So as I said in that blog piece it’s a mix of hustle and faith. I took the initiative to see if there was a way I could go to Yoga at no cost, and there was. Money didn’t limit me from having the experience I wanted.
      When you believe in the Law of Attraction and The Secret and that anything is possible there really are no limits on what you can EXPERIENCE. The experience is what I am constantly talking about, in my videos and blogs. You will NEVER hear me say the Law of Attraction brought me great wealth (though it may someday), or that money is how I’ve lived the lifestyle I have. I say the OPPOSITE.
      People believe MONEY is the only way to experience the life they dream of, it’s not. Everything that I experienced on my vision board (staying at the Ritz Carlton, Going to NBA games in the owners sky box, having $100 plate lunches in NY, flying first class, going to Hawaii)…all those things were done without me spending ANY of my own money, NOTHING! That’s the magic! That’s what I want to convey to my readers.
      I’m a single mom, even when I had my dream job I made a very low salary for the job I held, I live modestly at best and have always struggled to fully get back on my feet. It’s tough! I’m the first to say that. But it doesn’t prohibit me from having priceless experiences, or living the life/lifestyle of my dreams.  That is what I am trying to demonstrate in my blogs. All things are possible to those who believe, regardless of your situation.
      That is the main reason I have been compelled to share my story in the first place, because most of the people talking about success with The Secret are already wealthy. If your wealthy OF COURSE you can live that fabulous life style! When I saw the movie, I thought “that’s great but you already ARE YOU! You are RICH”. I felt there was no one showing how to do this who was like ME. So what I want people to know is that NO, it’s not just for the uber successful. It’s for you too! You can do this too! Even if you’re at the bottom like I have been, it’s still for you too. You can make this happen the same way you are watching me make it happen.  
That’s my ONLY agenda.
I’m not selling anything.
I’m not trying to convince anything of ANYTHING.
This is just a single-mom sharing her journey in hopes that it inspires someone to know, that it’s never too late to believe.
      You asked about how I can afford to “check-in to expensive places”. This is the perfect example: a friend I hadn’t seen in a long time called on my birthday and asked if I had plans, I didn’t so he picked me up and surprised me with a day of golfing. I don’t even golf! But it was a wonderful time and something I didn’t pay for (as u probably saw on my FB check in and pics)…later in the day another friend called and said he was in town for the evening and wanted to take me to dinner for my birthday…we went to the most expensive place in town, his instance and treat. So though my day started with no plans and no real ability to have that type of day…the Law of Attraction delivered it to me anyway.
      Another example: My son LOVES to go bowling. Well with 3 kids that can be a $40+ activity so it’s something we rarely have done. At the end of the school year he won a pass for free bowling for the whole family for a year. So you would see a check-in of us at a great bowling spot and me having the EXPERIENCE I want to have with my kids, and it magically came to us. I have examples like that that happen to me every single day. But the difference is I NEVER stop Hustling! I NEVER stop working as hard as I possibly can. I don’t sit back and expect anything to be handed to me, I just know and believe that it will work out, and in the mean time I work towards it. Make sense? That to me is the magic I’m always talking about.
      My message has ALWAYS been and will continue to be across the board that if you open up your mind to the idea that anything is possible, even when you are at your lowest (that is the reason I share the low points too, so that it’s known I’m in the same boat as most of my readers, I’m not special) then Law of Attraction is going to give you what you desire even if it seems totally illogical and ridiculous, in relation to your current circumstance. That is the reason I am very open about both of those aspects that you pointed out. Yes I’m struggling like many of my readers, but because I have faith it hasn’t changed the fact that great experiences still happen to me and that I’m daily grateful for each of them. Money stops being an obstacle when you strip it of that power.
      I hope that makes sense. I fully expect to be back to a “normal” life quickly with many more amazing experiences shared on my FB…which make those all the sweeter based on what I have been through. Thanks for your feedback I appreciate it.
Thanks!
Sarah
~Written by: Sarah Centrella for Thoughts.Stories.Life
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Why Everything Happens for a Reason

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in My Stories — 8 Comments ↓

So I’ve been talking a lot about having faith the past few months. How that even when we are going through difficult times (financial burdens, job issues, relationship struggles, heartbreak..you name it) we can still stay in a positive vibration and trust that the Universe knows what it’s doing and that everything will turn out the way it’s meant to in the end.

I chose on purpose to open my recent struggles up to you. I felt there was no better way to demonstrate the principles I’ve been talking about than showing you how I’ve been applying them during this personally challenging time.

It was a difficult thing to do.
I’m not going to lie.

No one I know likes loosing their job (especially a high profile one that they loved), or loosing their home (especially as the sole provider of 3 little children)…these have been very trying 7 weeks, no doubt. Many people would (rightfully so) try to hide it, it’s difficult to be this raw. Who am I kidding, it hurts whatever pride you have left! It sucks!!!

But…I knew I had to. I knew there would be no better way to prove to all of you who are looking for hope and light in a dark place, that it does exist. That if I could be jobless and homeless with 3 kids, and still not lose faith, that anyone can!

I wanted to let you see me go through it. Document it. Because I KNEW with every fiber of my being that some how (I had no idea how..especially the first 10 very scary days) everything was going to be OK.

Everything happens for a reason. Have faith. #HustleBelieveReceive
Just have faith

When you have unconditional faith, when you know like you know, like you KNOW that everything happens for a reason, and that this is all part of the BIG PICTURE plan…then even in the midst of the storm you have peace.

You stop freaking out!
You stop obsessing.
You DON’T stop hustling.
You DON’T stop trying.
But you combine your hustle and your work with faith not fear.

That faith is what gives you a life raft when the storm looks like it will swallow you whole. Sure you can swim (put in the work) but without faith (your life raft) you’d still drown in the ocean.
It’s the combination of both hard work in the positive direction AND belief/faith that can get you through anything and allow you to attract into your life the GOOD.

Think of these moments as earthquake moments. They are giant shifts in your life that look all bad at first. No one wants to clean up after an earth quake. The damage is heartbreaking and severe… but it also makes room for the dream home to be built. In other words…believe and KNOW that everything in your life has a purpose and happens for a reason and that in the end you are not only going to be OK, but you will be better.

On Sunday night I was able to welcome my kids home from a visit with their dad, for the first time in three weeks. I fed them the first home cooked meal in three weeks, at our kitchen table. I tucked them into their own beds for the first time, surrounded by their stuffed animals they had sorely missed. My kids had been such great troupers living in the American Red Cross hotel room for weeks without their toys, pillows or anything familiar. It felt so great to let them have that again. I sat in my spotless living room with a glass of wine, and thought…I will never forget this moment. I will never take for granted all the things I did before. I will be a better women, mother and human because of that experience. My heart will forever be open to anyone finding themselves in a position like we had.

Everything happens for a reason.

This past weekend a good friend flew out from the east coast to show support and give me a weekend to help forget the past few weeks, to toast to my birthday. It was a “Vision Board moment”. I am grateful for fairies who come into our lives to take us across the rough water on their wings of encouragement and friendship when we need a little lift…regardless of how long they remain in our lives.

Tomorrow I start my new job! Great news! I’m so ready to go back to a “normal life” and a regular schedule. It’s a great job and one I know I will love and am beyond blessed to have.

Have faith…everything happens for a reason. Just have faith.

 

 

 

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Give Me Bikram Yoga!

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in Health & Fitness, My Stories — 8 Comments ↓

So these last 2 weeks living in the Red Cross hotel, have been very trying. Trying on my kids, trying on my patience and faith. Just plain difficult in every way. It’s now been 2 weeks that we have been displaced because of a flood at our home. We have been living out of a tiny hotel room, no kitchen, 2 small double beds…I don’t like to focus on negative but it’s only fair to say that this has not been pleasant to put it mildly.

There have been two things that have kept me for losing my mind in this situation:
1. My strong unwavering belief in The Law of Attraction

2. Bikram Yoga!

yoga pose
Yoga…

Other benefits of living in a hotel include but are not limited too:

  • Someone else making your bed for you
  • Endless amount of free time on hand to do things like clip a zillion coupons and learn how to be an extreme couponer! A skill I imagine I might want to keep.
  • Lot’s of time to hit the gym, as they have a daycare and it gets us out of said hotel room!

But by far getting a chance to get back to my Bikram Yoga practice has been the thing that has kept me in some resemblance of control.

For those of you who have never heard of Bikram let me give you a quick tutorial of what it is. It’s NOT just yoga, trust me! I’ve done Yoga and this is NOT that!

Bikram is 90 minutes of the same 26 postures in every class across the world. It’s roughly 110 Degrees in a carpeted room with about 60 nearly naked sweaty soles crammed in looking at their own eyes in the mirror. You listen actively the entire class to verbal instructions only. No demonstration. No music. You do the same postures in the same order whether your in NYC, Portland or India. Sweat will pour off your body like your in a shower. Everyone’s mat and towels will be soaked. The room will stink.

Bikram Yoga
Favorite Yoga pose…

So that’s where I lose anyone I’ve ever tried to recruit to go to a class with me. Maybe I should tweak my pitch a little cuz in the 10 years I’ve half-assed been practicing I believe only 3 people have ever done a class with me. One was my sister the other 2 my longest and bestest friends who all happen to be more athletically gifted then me and I’m sure only went to prove they could hang in my class (which they totally did btw!).

Completing a Bikram class has been likened to a cross between running a marathon and great sex. I’ve never run a marathon so I cant speak to that, and to be clear there is nothing sexual about class, but I get the comparison. It sorta feels like being hit by a semi-truck, followed by a great spa massage.

It is a humbling experience. Maybe that’s why I love it so much over any other type of group exercise. There is NO ego. No vanity. No checking out your neighbor. There is only a mission of sole survival. Nothing else matters but living through the next 90 minutes.

There are several clear points to this specific hot yoga and that’s what brought me to share it with you. It’s such a great thing for anyone wanting to get a handle on their thoughts and the power of your mind, the meditation is intense. And the way you meditate is by being in the moment. Being completely present. Not letting your mind wonder beyond the words coming out of your instructors mouth, continuously for 90 hot, grueling minutes. It takes massive mental willpower and strength to accomplish this and I love that challenge. Your goal is to not allow your mind to wonder at all. To focus exactly on what is being said and then do it. That’s it. It’s so freaking hard! But so empowering.

Bikram Yoga Pose
Love this Yoga pose too!

For example I’m laying in “corps pose” in the floor series today, sucking wind. Soaked like someone had thrown my fully clothed ass in the pool. But I’m supposed to be focusing on “nothing” in this pose. A clean mind, blank. Have you ever tried to have a blank mind for 2 seconds let alone 60? So the instructor suggests we pick a spot on the ceiling to focus on and think only of that spot. I pick a bolt in the ceiling beam.

These are my thoughts in no particular order…

Bolt. Bolt. Bolt.
I want to bolt.
I wonder if I bolted now if it would distract anyone, probably not they are all deep in “blank mind.”
OK then screw.
Screw. Screw. Screw.
Damn screw as in…. to screw? Hmmmm….screw…. it’s been a minute since…
Focus! Focus!
The screw is holding the beam that is holding this building, I am the screw. I’m strong. I’m holding the building.
God cant I just bolt!?

Yeah I’m not really good at the “silent mind” stuff yet…but I’m actively trying! And that is the message of this yoga. If you just show up everyday, with belief and faith…you WILL finish the class, and coincidentally burned 1,000 calories.

Just show up and believe.

This yoga is so the metaphor for life, at least for me. You come, broken hurting, with little or no faith. Your self-talk is destructive. You look in the mirror and you hate what you see.

But the longer you practice the more you begin to believe. The more you begin to watch your body and mind do things you didn’t dream possible that first class.

Every class is totally different then the last. Yesterday it KILLED me. There was about 75 people in a room that should hold 40, it was the second class in a row of 2 so the room was extra hot. No amount of self-motivating mantra’s could help me yesterday. My skin laterally burned. My nail polish melted. I was in HELL. The instructor reminded us at least 20 times that Bikram himself refers to this yoga as a “torture chamber”, it was nothing shy of that yesterday. I sat out a good 1/4 of the postures, wanting to “bolt” more then life! But if there’s one thing you NEVER do in this yoga, it’s leave the room. (The second thing you NEVER do is make a sound). So my sweaty, ass was staying put and quiet, finishing what I’d started.

Bikram Yoga images
Hot Yoga

But today’s class was amazing~! In the 10 years I’ve done this yoga, what happened today has never happened before. Today after we would finish a posture (I did all of them today!) I would instinctively stretch out whatever area hurt after that pose, and then realize that the next posture we were doing was to do exactly what I was trying to sneak in…in other words it was bringing me what my body needed, posture after posture. I don’t know if it’s just that I’m getting old and now all of it hurts more then before, but I was amazed at how consecutively the next sequence was addressing my immediate pain. And I thought, this is just like living life with The Law of Attraction. When you believe and know that you will be taken care of, you are. You are granted everything you need.

Even in the tough times, like these past 2 weeks, we have been granted everything we need. And I’ve never lost faith that it would be the case, and it has been.

Today was a great reminder, of how when you live in the vibration of self-awareness, and positive empowerment that your life and the Universe rises up to meet you. It makes all those pieces in your life work in harmony. It brings you lessons in EVERYTHING. It’s just up to us to realize them. To be present and aware in the moment to recognize and learn from them. That is my goal.

I’ve learned so much through this experience, and yes I’m grateful for it. It’s taught me so much about myself and my faith and what is really important in life.

~Namaste’

 

 

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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Dating Advice: How do I move forward?

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in Dating — 3 Comments ↓

Reader Question:
A women who wants to move on from a man who doesn’t want a relationship, when she does. She is struggling with letting that go, it’s consumed her feelings and taken away her motivation. She wants to know how to change form a negative place and move into the positive. 
Women, US

My Thoughts….

Thanks for your note. Men are the heartbreak of our lives aren’t they! I don’t know why they torment us so much but they really do. They can take up all our mind share and make us unless to ourselves! Believe me I know!

I would say that, if you believe in the law of attraction, then you KNOW that “like attracts like” meaning that the more you make yourself sick over him the sicker and more obsessed and miserable you will be over him. So let’s turn that around!

Here is 4 quick steps to get you started….
1. Stop communicating with him for a while. Make a time limit for yourself (say a week). It will be a test of your mental strength and is the hardest thing to do, I know. But don’t reply to his text, dont email/facebook/tweet/call/drunk dial/nothing! And don’t respond if he contacts you.

 2. Focus on YOU. Spend the time rebuilding your strength and self-worth. Because what it comes down to is, we settle for someone who treats us like crap when we don’t believe we can do better. When we are afraid of being alone. When that’s the message we tell ourselves. So start by picking 3-4 Affirmations:
“I am beautiful”
“I love my life”
“I know the right man is waiting for me”
“I am worthy of true, faithful love”.
Something like that, (note: it will feel fake and “stupid” in the beginning, stick with it) and say it to yourself in the mirror every day when you wake up. Throughout the day say it as many times as you can to yourself. Rewrite the script that runs in your head.

3. Get physically active. Walk, ride a bike, swim, go to yoga whatever you like to do. Maybe pick a different activity every day, try a new class at the gym. The exercise will give extra oxygen to your brain, and endorphins which will make you have more energy and feel better about yourself. That combined with not talking to him (so not letting him bring you down), and constantly repeating your affirmations…will result in you feeling much better a week from now then you do right now! I promise!!!

4. Make a Vision Board. If you haven’t made a one already…this would be the perfect week to do it. It will give you something to look forward to and be happy about…it will get your mind off him and on to YOUR dreams…

Make a commitment to do all these things for just 7 days. 7 days is so short, we can do anything for that length of time right? So stick to this plan. My guess is you wont want to stop there… 🙂
Gooood luck!! email me in 7 days and let me know how it went k?

Here’s a song for you….

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Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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How to Find Your Dreams Again.

Posted on by Sarah Centrella Posted in Parenting — No Comments ↓
How to rediscover your dreams.

Reader Question:
She is a mother of 2, married. Though she loves her children deeply she cant help but feel a loss in her life of her dreams, ambitions and aspirations. She gave up her career to be a stay at home mom, but is now back to work part-time and loving it. She still feels like she is trapped to a degree in a life absent of the fun she used to have..

My Thoughts…

I can so relate to these feelings. The last three or so years of my marriage I felt the very same way. Like I had planned all these grandiose and amazing things for my life when I was younger but woke up one day and was in this dull, stressful boring life. I was someone I couldn’t recognize on any level. I was 60 lbs heavier then I used to be, I was filled with self-loathing, depressed and stressed to the max. Even my basic personality had totally changed, from the life of the party to a homebody. I felt my connection to my husband had vanished over the years and I spent day after day at home with no one but babies to talk to. I literally felt like I was losing my mind.

Now I know what some of you “amazing moms” are saying right now. What? You don’t love your kids?? You don’t love spending time with them?? Come on now! Of course we love our kids, and we are both good mothers, its not about that, even if the pressure is intense from society for us to think other wise.

But it’s hard when you used to love your job, felt fulfilled, enjoyed the social connection and mental stimulation it provided. Then to instead have your day filled with cleaning, cooking and potty training, it can ware down even the best “super mom’s” out there! That’s why we get what my OB called “mommy brain” where our brains turn to mush!

So believe me I can relate to how you are feeling. There would be times when I would remember my old dreams and goals for myself, and get even more depressed. It seemed like anything I wanted to do was now out of the question for the next 18 years. Every day seemed just like the last, a struggle. I felt alone and secluded, and mourned my old dreams. The future looked grey, and I didn’t know how to define it for me. I didn’t even know who ME was anymore.

It’s hard to give hope, love and inspiration to your family if we as mom’s feel drained of it ourselves.

How to rediscover your dreams.So here is my suggestion…
On a night when you are alone (and will be, so you don’t feel rushed), grab a glass of wine, turn on some nice music, maybe even light some candles. Set the mood for you to be relaxed and calm.
Then get a note pad and write your bucket list. 
Take your time with this.
Write down everything you ever wanted to do. Everything!
Describe it in as much detail as possible.
Take the time to really think about each item. Visualize it. Call up a little mini movie in your head for each one.
Let yourself feel happy as you go through each item on your list.
Enjoy the process, it should be kinda fun. It’s your ultimate wish list, so nothing is off limits.
When it’s complete, and everything you ever wanted to do is represented there…you should feel the joy of that little spark, I like to call hope.
Because after all this is a list of everything you WILL DO BEFORE YOU DIE.
You will do these things at some point in your life. Don’t let doubt or reason or reality play ANY part in this list.
This list is YOURS.
Maybe keep it to yourself for a while if you don’t feel the people in your life will support it. It’s like a little fragile seed, protect it until your faith is a little stronger.
But read your list every night.
Let your mind wander on each item, picture them clearly in your head.

Realize you are still full of dreams and ambitions that WILL come true.

Do this, then email me and we will work on step 2, which is putting this into action.

You are NOT alone, trust me. Thank you for reaching out!

*This is an interactive blog, please leave your thoughts in the comment section, I will respond. And if you have a question for me feel free to email me directly at thoughtsstorieslife@gmail.com

My Bucket List

 

Sarah Centrella is the author of the book Hustle Believe Receive which teaches you how to apply the #HBRMethod to change your life and live your dream.

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